AnnaB6 1 Posted March 20, 2007 My husband and I have a great relationship but I often wonder after I lost the weight if it will change anything. I mean how will I feel if he is more turned on after I loose the weight. Don't get me wrong I don't want him to go the other way but it just makes me wonder of what he really thinks of me fat. I don't know what I'm saying does anyone out there get of what I'm trying to say? :faint: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bsubabe 0 Posted March 20, 2007 I know how you feel. I started dating my BF when i was a size 16-18 ( i miss those days). Although i did gain weight from a surgery on my knee which put me preety much sedentary for a couple of weeks, i do wonder what he thinks of me. I know he loves me and accepts me but at the same time i am not the skinny "girls " that he likes to look at. Sometimes i wonder if he is attracted to me and what will happen after my surgery and after i loose weight. However i do have the comfort that he does love me and loves me as i am... I guess the question here is "how do you feel about yourself?" I have struggled with this myself. i understand how you feel.. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
waterlily1072 5 Posted March 20, 2007 Seems to me the question is do you feel that your marriage is based on love and friendship or sexual attraction? Men are visual creatures and sometimes a beautiful woman catches their eye, do they love you less because you are not the victoria secret model? Only if they are shallow. Either he loves you or he doesn't. If he loves you it is only normal for him to be attracted to the new healthier you! For one thing he will be turned on by the fact that you are more confident and feel sexier. I have to say that 70+ lbs has made a difference for my DH and me. We can do things we never could before and it's fun and exciting. I hope you find what you are looking for in your marriage and your weight loss, good luck Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
