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My mom and sister was all for the surgery a few months back. Now that I'm half way through the 6mnths diet..they are telling me I don't really need wls. .that I will get to skinny and I will look unhealthy. .cause they know a few people that had wls, now they look unhealthy and look older..I'm getting nervous. My current weight is 240lbs..5'4..I think that's pretty big..getting realllly nervous...anyone got to skinny. .I realllly doubt I will get down to 120-130lb..after wls..any advice?

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I started at about your weight and 10 months later, I wish too skinny was my problem. I still need to lose the last 10-15 lbs and it is a b!tch. I am working very hard to lose it, the weight slows with time. I think education may help. Can you take one or both to a Dr's appt? Let the pros explain why this is right for you.

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I would take them with me, but no use..I've already made up my mind to go with it..just need God's hand while doctor is performing the surgery that everything goes well. .I'm confident I will not drop down below 120-130lbs.

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I started at about your weight and 10 months later, I wish too skinny was my problem. I still need to lose the last 10-15 lbs and it is a b!tch. I am working very hard to lose it, the weight slows with time. I think education may help. Can you take one or both to a Dr's appt? Let the pros explain why this is right for you.

Congrats! On almost reaching your goal..did family/ friends made any comments that your looking unhealthy or getting to skinny?

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I have done a lot of research, and what I have found is that it is normal to appear "to skinny" when losing weight. This Is caused by the rapid weight loss and extra skin.. The baggy skin makes you look very unhealthy. But once your skin tightens back up, then people start to notice your face and arms 'fill out', along with this is the fact that you still need to build up muscles that will also help fill you out In a heathy way. Appearing to skinny is part of the process. It goes away after some time. Regardless if you get lower then your goal weight or not this generally happens to people who lose more then 100lb in a year. Which is a lot very quickly. Do more searching on your own, ask your doctor and talk to people who are in the after stages of their WLS.. Yes it can appear to be scary, but keep your doctor informed as it happens and remember to expect it. It's not that you are getting to skinny, it's that this is a big drastic change, and people are going to notice that. Your body just needs time to catch up and do it's thing. :) acuna matata. No worries. ;)

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This is true when you lose the weight fast others are going to notice especially people you havent seen in a while. I went to my Nurologist that I haden't seen since before my surgery in July he came out into the waiting room and said I'll be right back, while he was gone they called me back when he came into the room he couldn't belive it was me he told me how great I looked, and that hedid not recongize me in the waiting room. Made me feel really good, my family never tells me any thing about how I look. My husband has all ways been bad about sabatoging my diets in the past, buying things I loved but wasn't supposed to eat and I had 0 control. But now I could care less the day I had my

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Sugery done he ordered a pizza to eat, I was eating chicken broth and Jello for dinner and my Dr came in saw what he was eatting in front of me and started fussing at him, I told the Dr it was fine I wasn't hungry any way it didn't bother me at all before I would have been mad at him eatting thay in front of when I couldn't have any. It's still that way when I was only on liquids or cream of chicken Soup, potatoe Soups, now I can eat what ever I want to eat.

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Congrats! On almost reaching your goal..did family/ friends made any comments that your looking unhealthy or getting to skinny?

Yes! Several friends and family have said it. One from a bit of envy- I'm losing, she's gaining. My mom also seems concerned. Said I needed to stop 40 pounds ago! She is heavy and I had been overweight my entire life so I don't think she has a realistic eye about what a healthy weight is. I am not skinny at 147-149 lbs. I still have belly fat but obviously look and feel better than before. Below is a pic from yesterday, I think I look average. As far as not being able stop, regain is easy. I am up 2 lbs from Xmas. :-( Good for you in staying with your decision.

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