Are family members just clueless when it comes to the fact, we can't eat.

[ladyd728 106]

Really, my mom just came over to take my son Christmas shopping (he's 17). I asked her to go and get some Gas X, because I keep hearing everyone talk about it on this forum. Wondering what is taking her so long, she then walks in with a box of Popeyes chicken. I was like, why did you bring that here? I have food here for them to eat other child 7. Last Sunday I made 3 different meals for the entire week. One dish is still left. I hate to sound insensitive but that was too much. I just started crying, I feel so bad and then this. I told her they are going to drive around with that in the car. I don't want the smell in the house. These 5 days has been really hard. I'm not happy at all with this.

[LindafromFlorida 1,542]

You have had your surgery? Or pre-op? I cannot tell. Either way, Your Mom was probably trying to be helpful because you have children to feed. You may be understandably a little stressed, so take deep breaths and focus on YOU and what is best for you. You are going to be faced with food and the smells the rest of your life and if you have a good grip on your willpower, you will be more successful in your journey. She may not have known you had food in the house for the kids. Relax and regroup, rest, and have a Merry Christmas!!!

[PGee 318]

I think they are trying to be supportive the best way they know how.....perhaps she figured providing dinner for the kids would give you a break (maybe?).

I told my husband B/4 surgery: "if I'm not eating, I'm not cooking".....he thought I was kidding........he had a rude awakening LOL

Good luck......with my experience, early out every day was different and filled with challenges, but each day got better and better the further out I was......wishing you the best.

[ladyd728 106]

You have had your surgery? Or pre-op? I cannot tell. Either way, Your Mom was probably trying to be helpful because you have children to feed. You may be understandably a little stressed, so take deep breaths and focus on YOU and what is best for you. You are going to be faced with food and the smells the rest of your life and if you have a good grip on your willpower, you will be more successful in your journey. She may not have known you had food in the house for the kids. Relax and regroup, rest, and have a Merry Christmas!!!

Thanks, I just had surgery on the 17 and it's been really hard. Once I cried I finally felt better, it was like I needed to release some stress.

[LindafromFlorida 1,542]

I had the sleeve 11/18 and my husband 12/2. You are a Mom and that brings different stresses for you, trying to take care of your children and home, and God only knows what else. We are 66 and 67 years old, and I have been shopping and walking for three weeks with great energy, where I was depressed and couch sitting for this past year, being fat and miserable. Trust me, by next week you are going to feel much better. Mentally and physically. I think the fear of the unknown following this surgery scares us. There are so many positive posts here, and answers for almost everything, and good friends to make. Have a wonderful Christmas, and if you need a pickme up just add me as a friend and tell me! Heres a hug......

[ladyd728 106]

I think they are trying to be supportive the best way they know how.....perhaps she figured providing dinner for the kids would give you a break (maybe?).

I told my husband B/4 surgery: "if I'm not eating, I'm not cooking".....he thought I was kidding........he had a rude awakening LOL

Good luck......with my experience, early out every day was different and filled with challenges, but each day got better and better the further out I was......wishing you the best.

Thanks so much, I just want to be myself again. I guess I had prepared my mind in thinking I will be back to normal in a couple of days. So this constant pain has really shocked me. I don't think my kids has ever seen me in pain like this. My two c sections were so much better than this and that is what I compared this to....Oooh they are so different. Thank you

[ladyd728 106]

I've called her and apologized to her. I just needed a good cry. Thank y'all

[LindafromFlorida 1,542]