how to tell other family and friends?

[saliyna94 1]

I am 19 but will turn 20 in April. I got sleeved Dec. 17, 2013 so a few days.

I will be starting school on jan. 21. I just wanted to know techniques or ways you told them about your surgery. How did you feel?

[No game 14,437]

It's not very savvy but I just told.

When I went out to eat and somebody asked about my weird eating I would just blurt out I had weight loss surgery on such and such a date.

Then answer all the questions they had about it.

I don't shout it from the roof tops but at the same time it is part of what I'm going through so It would and does come up in conversations

[itsnevertoolate 9]

I'm struggling with the issue of who to tell and not tell about my surgery. I really don't want to hear other people's ignorant opinions and judgements so I had decided not to tell anyone, except my sister and a close friend. But now with Christmas next week I don't know how to handle all the questions about my eating at the big family get-together. I just had surgery earlier this week so I'm on a completely liquid diet. There will be nothing at Christmas that I will be able to eat and all sorts of tempting goodies I would rather avoid. I'm thinking about not going and just telling my family that I'm sick.

[LipstickLady 25,682]

I didn't tell my in laws and I was super nervous about all the questions I was going to get at Thanksgiving. It's funny how sure I was that EVERYONE would notice that I ate next to nothing and not one person out of 12 said a word. HA!

Because I've lost so much, I have told them that I am doing high protein/low carb but not a single peep was made about my teeny portions.

If you don't make a big deal of it, no one else will either. I am 7 months out and no one has mentioned what I eat that doesn't know and I go out to eat, to parties, to business conventions, etc. all the time. Funny that.

[PdxMan 4,292]

Well, you are over 18 now. I felt no obligation to tell anyone. I told my wife and my sisters-in-law as they were watching my children as I traveled for this procedure to Las Vegas. A couple days before surgery, I told my Mother. That was it. I felt it was nobody's business as to the decisions I make as it relates to my body.

I did this because I did tell one other person. A neighbor, who then went on and on asking why I couldn't do it on my own, why I was looking for the easy way out, I wasn't fat enough for WLS ... on and on. I decided she didn't need to know the details of my personal battle with my weight and neither does anyone else.

After I got to goal, I did start telling a few people who asked that I had a VSG because I figured they wouldn't be able to criticize since it obviously worked for me. Plus, at that time, I was so much more informed about the whole process and what it meant to me, I could better answer any comments they had.

Do what you feel is right in your heart. Trust in yourself. You will find the answer that is right for you.