Feeling Guilty

[SuzanneB 0]

Please don't hate me....

My best friend is looking into wls, and has been involved in the local bariatric clinic for the past year going to her classes etc. She encouraged me to look into wls as well, knowing that I would have to join the clinic and I would be far down the road behind her...

Well, I work in the operating room so I asked a surgeon one day if he would accept me as a pt for wls and he said sure he would watch for my referral. Well, surg date was booked within 2 mos of our conversation.

Yup, jumped the line. But in my defense I work very hard for my surgeons and they appreciate this fact, and I feel this perk had been a gift from my surgeon for my dedication. Kind of like a Christmas Bonus lol.

Now...my friend is pissed. And yes she definitely has a right to be. Things are strained and I feel really bad about it but once the ball started rolling it was really out of my control.

I've now been sleeved for almost 2 weeks and I really don't want this guilt to sabotage my weight loss efforts!

Sorry to hear that. I bet as long as you don't flaunt your weight loss and you support her on her journey, thing will mend themselves. Wishing you the best.

[VSG AJH 499]

Please don't hate me....

My best friend is looking into wls, and has been involved in the local bariatric clinic for the past year going to her classes etc. She encouraged me to look into wls as well, knowing that I would have to join the clinic and I would be far down the road behind her...

Well, I work in the operating room so I asked a surgeon one day if he would accept me as a pt for wls and he said sure he would watch for my referral. Well, surg date was booked within 2 mos of our conversation.

Yup, jumped the line. But in my defense I work very hard for my surgeons and they appreciate this fact, and I feel this perk had been a gift from my surgeon for my dedication. Kind of like a Christmas Bonus lol.

Now...my friend is pissed. And yes she definitely has a right to be. Things are strained and I feel really bad about it but once the ball started rolling it was really out of my control.

I've now been sleeved for almost 2 weeks and I really don't want this guilt to sabotage my weight loss efforts!

Certainly not a thing to feel bad about or hated for, and if your friend has a problem, I'd question her friendship. Everyone in the WLS community understands there's a wait for some reason or another, whether it's an insurance thing, a patient education thing, the surgeon's schedule, etc. Because of your career, your wait was shortened, and that should be a thing to Celebrate -- by you and all your friends. You're on your way to weight loss and improved health. Thank goodness for perks! If you worked in fashion, would she be mad that you were able to pull stuff of the racks before the public? No, it's understood that that could happen. If you worked in film, would she be mad that you previewed movies before others? No. Similar thing. She needs to get over herself, or you need to get a new friend.

Edited December 21, 2013 by VSG AJH