Question

[Jls93001 26]

Has anyone found dating easier after?

[Bronco0605 135]

Not sure because I am married but I can say my husband is a happy man!

[Jls93001 26]

Bronco0605 thanx for the response. Good to hear

[Roo101769 742]

Not as of yet. I am not down near goal yet either. ( I have lost over 50lbs) I do not believe it is all weight related though. Attitude is a very large part of the equation. You absolutely have to put yourself out there and basically have a "devil may care" attitude. Worrying about it makes you seem desperate. Living life and enjoying what may come will make you happier, which in turn will make you more appealing. But as someone who is still on my weight loss journey I do understand that may be easier said than done. While I have lost more weight than my preschooler, I am still obese. Those who just meet me see it, they don't see how far I have come already. I have insecurities that make it hard to be as carefree as I would like. But let me tell you, I do not plan to crawl in a hole and give up. Eventually I will find the person meant for me, or die trying!!! ( at a VERY old age!)

[Jls93001 26]

Thank you for that! I needed it

[BethinPA 305]

I don't think dating is easy at any weight, but as I have lost weight I have been more confident to get out there and try!

[Hunter 159]

I had my first date post sleeve yesterday. It was great. The boost to my self esteem was the only reason I had the courage to ask her out! I met her just before being sleeved and she has watched the process we talked some about nutrition and how I eat today but it did not make me uncomfortable. That was one of many topics discussed during the 2.5 hour lunch. It was cool I cut my steak in little bites and paced my eating to finish with her. Which left more time for me to focus on her and not the food. So it is still hard I think it always will be but for me it is much easier.

[mistysj 1,940]

I had my first date post sleeve yesterday. It was great. The boost to my self esteem was the only reason I had the courage to ask her out! I met her just before being sleeved and she has watched the process we talked some about nutrition and how I eat today but it did not make me uncomfortable. That was one of many topics discussed during the 2.5 hour lunch. It was cool I cut my steak in little bites and paced my eating to finish with her. Which left more time for me to focus on her and not the food. So it is still hard I think it always will be but for me it is much easier.

You sound like a sweet guy. I'm glad you are feeling more confident!

[Jls93001 26]

Hunter I'm happy for you and hoping everything goes well. confidence is everything & I don't really have much of it

[Branmuffin 190]

I don't think dating life is easy for any single person that is actually looking for a relationship. I'm married but remember being divorced (previous marriage) with a baby and just going with the flow. It's hard because so many want an "instant" relationship without the dating! I get onto my daughter for that even now. Add in the texting and face timing you can get bored with each other before you ever really date! My advice: date old school. Make someone "try" to impress you and expect your door to be opened for you. Go out of the house on dates! Don't just "hang out" at first. Keep a distance between you so that when you hold hands, kiss or hug it's exciting. Real men want to be the man in the relationship and take care of their woman and I see absolutely nothing wrong with that. Good luck finding your soulmate. So glad I found mine. Ps yes I'm a mom!

[Jls93001 26]

Love it!

[JeanZ_RN 378]

When I get closer to goal I'm going to try http://www.loveafterwls.com.

[Jls93001 26]

Thanx. Think I'll try also