Are You Having Someone Stay With You In The Hospital?

[Mel1071 149]

I'm having surgery on 12/16. I'm trying to figure out if I should have my husband stay with me. In my info booklet I got from my surgeon it says I should have someone stay with me the first night. But at pre-op class yesterday the nurse said it's really not necessary.

I'll have a private room so that's good. But I don't want to put him through the joys of staying in a hospital.

Just wondering what other folks did.

[Bufflehead 6,358]

I made people stay away, the last thing I wanted was to feel like I needed to entertain someone when I should be focused on nothing but sipping and walking. If I needed help at any time, that's what the nurse call button is for.

[Chelenka 827]

My hubby went home but we only live 5 mins from the hospital. I think it's what makes you feel comfortable that is important.

[ReDbEaN 654]

My hubby and my eldest daughter stayed. The hubby had already planned to stay, my daughter stayed cuz I was so sick ( I was one of the unfortunate ones who was deathly nauseated/vomiting/dry heaving). A good friend of mine didn't have anyone stay at all...it all depends on what you want, but I can say I told my hubby he didn't have to stay and he said he was staying with me anyway :-)

[Lilrosie 34]

I made people stay away, the last thing I wanted was to feel like I needed to entertain someone when I should be focused on nothing but sipping and walking. If I needed help at any time, that's what the nurse call button is for.

NO WAY do I want to have to worry about ANYONE else but myself! Come, visit, then go home and let me rest and heal!!

[Mel1071 149]

Oh , trust me I don't feel like having to deal with people but hubby is my rock . I'm scheduled for surgery at 8am on the 16th and should be released on the 18th. He was talking about taking off the 16th and 17th to be with me, working half a day on Wednesday and then taking that afternoon off to pick me up. He has to work some that week as his office will be closing for the rest of the year starting the following week.

I'm getting the feeling that my hubby is starting to stress about me having surgery. I think he wants to be there as much as possible and while I don't think I'll mind him being there I don't want him going crazy either.

Thanks for the input!

[ekmw 56]

My boyfriend and mum was waiting while I had my surgery.

My mum stayed with me for awhile, to make sure I was stable, see how I was, and to get me talking a little.

My boyfriend stayed the night with me, because I have panic and anxiety about staying in unfamiliar places.

He stayed because he wanted to make sure I wouldn't be alone and scared.

[Candyland86 24]

That's my date also!!! I'm only going to have my 12yro son

[Mel1071 149]

I have anxiety issues too and this is my first ever surgery so I'm thinking it won't be a bad idea to have him along for the ride I figure day 1 I'm going to be pretty out of it, but I would appreciate seeing a familiar face when I come to. Not sure how Day 2 goes...

Candyland86 - hello sleeve sister! Have you joined the December sleevers thread yet? Lots of us over there plus we have a Facebook group (it's private so the whole world doesn't need to know your business

[Candyland86 24]

I have anxiety issues too and this is my first ever surgery so I'm thinking it won't be a bad idea to have him along for the ride I figure day 1 I'm going to be pretty out of it, but I would appreciate seeing a familiar face when I come to. Not sure how Day 2 goes... Candyland86 - hello sleeve sister! Have you joined the December sleevers thread yet? Lots of us over there plus we have a Facebook group (it's private so the whole world doesn't need to know your business

. No I haven't yet I just got my date yesterday. I am part of the FB group I love it!!!

[Ms.AntiBand 2,984]

If your husband is taking time off its probably best to take the days you get home and no one's there to be with you. Plenty of help in hospital

[Mel1071 149]

It's just so nice to be among people who are right where you are. And right now it seems like everyone has started or is getting ready to start their pre-op diet so it is really getting real now

[Busymomof3 181]

I had my husband make sure I came through surgery ok and he visited me but I did not want him to stay. I was really sick and dry heaving and there was nothing he could have done to make me feel better anyway. I didn't want him to have to deal with me like that. Honestly, looking back on my stay now, it was all a blur.

[gemgirl 19]

I'm scheduled for Dec. 18th and I plan on staying that night alone in the hospital so that my hubby can go home and stay with our 2 year old. I don't want to inconvenience anyone to have to stay with my daughter. And like previous posters said- there is plenty of help at the hospital

[Coachdk 72]

I have anxiety issues too and this is my first ever surgery so I'm thinking it won't be a bad idea to have him along for the ride I figure day 1 I'm going to be pretty out of it, but I would appreciate seeing a familiar face when I come to. Not sure how Day 2 goes... Candyland86 - hello sleeve sister! Have you joined the December sleevers thread yet? Lots of us over there plus we have a Facebook group (it's private so the whole world doesn't need to know your business

Last year was my first surgery...knee replacement. Even though there are lots of "horror stories" about this surgery, it wasn't bad at all. I think that experience was what helped me decide to get the sleeve. My husband stayed with me the whole time and

I was really glad. I'm okay with him leaving me some when I get the sleeve, though.