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I am almost a year post op and my sex drive is....NILL! My husband is going crazy! You would think after losing 127 lbs I would want it every day! NOPe! I was hoping it would get better...but nothing. I have tried sprays under the tongue & some all natural supplements and still didn't help.

I don't know what to do.... Advice?? Anyone else have this problem??

:wacko:

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Without getting too personal, how was it before surgery?

Do you get blood work done regularly? I read about different Vitamin deficiencies leading to lower sex drive.

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I think certain times of ebb and flow are pretty normal & that's true no matter what we weigh. Maybe this is just a temporary ebb period for you? I would go in for a check-up, just to make sure nothing physiological is going on. Good luck!

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I have noticed this, and I am willing to bet the farm that it's a shift in hormones. If you think about some of the other things we see after being sleeved like , fluctuating menstruation cycles, Hair loss and skin reactions, these are hormone driven reactions to the changes in our bodies, so I think this is a very real hormonal response. For me, the hair loss has stopped and my skin is sorting itself out, so I am hoping the same thing happens with my sex drive

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Without getting too personal, how was it before surgery?

Do you get blood work done regularly? I read about different Vitamin deficiencies leading to lower sex drive.

It was definitely better pre-op! GO FIGURe! Yes I do and nothing to speak of as of yet.

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I don't know ... Sometimes I think I should like force myself but... I just don't care lol.. and don't want it. I don't know. And trust me.. I love my husband and am still 100% attracted to him... ugh..

so frustrating..

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How are you feeling about yourself physically?

Sometimes we are hard on how we look, yes, even after losing 127 pounds - sometimes that old fat girl comes back and plays tricks on your mind.

I would also talk to your doc about the hormones. There's a lot of changes the body is coping with since losing an entire person!

I wish you luck, sweetie.

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How are you feeling about yourself physically?

Sometimes we are hard on how we look, yes, even after losing 127 pounds - sometimes that old fat girl comes back and plays tricks on your mind.

I would also talk to your doc about the hormones. There's a lot of changes the body is coping with since losing an entire person!

I wish you luck, sweetie.

I feel good! Besides having my gallbladder out in August and Pancriatitis 2 weeks ago...I'm ok. Yeah I am definitely going to talk to my doctor.

THanks

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Wish I could loan you some of mine. :(

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Wish I could loan you some of mine. :(

I'll take some please :)

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I'll take some too please! lol

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I am almost a year post op and my sex drive is....NILL! My husband is going crazy! You would think after losing 127 lbs I would want it every day! NOPe! I was hoping it would get better...but nothing. I have tried sprays under the tongue & some all natural supplements and still didn't help.

I don't know what to do.... Advice?? Anyone else have this problem??

:wacko:

Try reading "50 Shades of Grey". Got my wife cranking. Lol

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Try reading "50 Shades of Grey". Got my wife cranking. Lol

Read all 3 books in 2 weeks...lol

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I feel good! Besides having my gallbladder out in August and Pancriatitis 2 weeks ago...I'm ok. Yeah I am definitely going to talk to my doctor.

THanks

Sounds like you're doing everything right with followup and being aware of what's going on with you. Hopefully your doctor can figure something out. Good luck!!

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It may be worth getting your hormones checked. Low levels of testosterone, estrogen and/or progesterone can all cause low sex drive and I think with weight loss, some of those hormones do get out of whack.

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