Competition Amongst Women

[aroundhky 1,174]

Careful. I tried mentioning this once and got accused of being an insensitive toad.

Butter.....perhaps I AM a bit insensitive at times....which kind of makes my point I guess. If I were more sensitive, it would tend to lead to more drama. I know there's probably a good middle ground at which I need to aspire. So, I'm a "recovering insenstive toad"..... who is trying to do better. At least I'm past the denial stage.....acknowledgement is the first step towards recovery right?

[Butterthebean 8,146]

Butter.....perhaps I AM a bit insensitive at times....which kind of makes my point I guess. If I were more sensitive, it would tend to lead to more drama. I know there's probably a good middle ground at which I need to aspire. So, I'm a "recovering insenstive toad"..... who is trying to do better. At least I'm past the denial stage.....acknowledgement is the first step towards recovery right?

I dunno. I embrace my toadness.

[M2G 1,836]

So, I'm a "recovering insenstive toad".....

Funny I never got that impression about you!

And LV - - as we previously discussed there is just no use with the whole comparison deal. WHY do people insist on doing that? And to have someone do it in a negative way...ugh! I'm sorry someone tried to drag you down...at the end of the day we all have to face ourselves in the mirror and I refuse to live my life in a negative fashion. I wouldn't bother giving them any more thoughts...deep breath in, exhale out.

YOU GOT THIS!

[Joe I 180]

Why do we do that? Why must we compare?

I think it's in our genes!!! Seriously!

I'm glad to say I have never compared any women when their in jeans

[Nicolanz 1,484]

I've never been the competitive type. I'm always in my own little world and only worry about myself. Others have definitely motivated me, but never been envious. I work hard to improve myself not sit back and hate on those who may have it better or worse. I surround myself with like-minded people.

But I work with a lot of women who always point out whatever negative point they can about my endeavors. When I told my client I was pregnant, her reply, "my coworker lost her baby 6 months into her pregnancy" Another client pointed out that my boobs are shrinking due to my weightloss. When I went back to school to be a nurse, one client said,"ewws I could never do that" .

Someone is always going to try to bring you down when you're succeeding. I try not to let anyone influence me but as you can see, I still remember every word of their negative comments. Does it affect my happiness? Hell no! I realize they are unhappy and I usually reply with something positive. I have come to the conclusion that misery loves company. I choose not to be their companion.

[gmanbat 5,889]

I am ashamed to confess that due to the enormous size of my ego I seldom feel compelled to enter into any comparison battles with anyone over anything. It would be the equivalent in my mind to entering into mortal combat with a hamster. My sense of power renders the outcome a foregone conclusion and therefore too boringly trivial to engage in.

Now if anyone thinks they have a bigger ego than mine give it your best shot!

[aroundhky 1,174]

I am ashamed to confess that due to the enormous size of my ego I seldom feel compelled to enter into any comparison battles with anyone over anything. It would be the equivalent in my mind to entering into mortal combat with a hamster. My sense of power renders the outcome a foregone conclusion and therefore too boringly trivial to engage in.

Now if anyone thinks they have a bigger ego than mine give it your best shot!

That was classic "gmanbat"! It's not even a contest!

[Oregondaisy 2,021]

I have never had to do this in the 7 years i've been posting on lapbandtalk or sleve talk, but if someone's posts continued to bother me, I would block them. Then I wouldn't have to even see their posts.

I would hope that most of us would in a tactful way, call people on their bs and if necessary, report it. It's agains the terms of service here, Ya know?

[sophiepants 489]

Laura!!! There is NO ONE you should compare yourself too! You are one of a kind and amazing I might add!! Your an inspiration and I love reading your posts! It's nice to hear a voice of reason when someone wont call the BS!!

I find I compare myself to many on here but do try to remember It's all to possible some of it is a front!. I left Facebook for that very reason. Some people just post what they know people wanna hear or what they think makes them look better!. AND I HATE IT!!!

I've always thought you are real, a real person, a real woman, a real caring person and have a awesome sence of humor!! I told you once I liked your style and I still do, Plus I love your jeans in your full body pic!!

Havent seen you much on here either and I hate it!!

[No game 14,437]

Lol! I'm here you can tell because my first post back is kicking up some dust

My son has been in a spelling bee competition for the last two days and I volunteered for a potluck today at his school.

Oh and I spent time clothes shopping too!!

Body image is so weird somedays..

I squeezed my fat ass into a size 6 skinny jeans I think they are snug but my husband liked them but honestly it was between that pair and another pair that were twice the price... I think cost motivates him somedays

I told him after I tried them on though that I still feel fat somedays like I know I'm a ton smaller...

But it's like a smaller fat Laura I let things get into my head sometimes..

I need to be proud oh! and maybe lift a weight or two to firm up

[sophiepants 489]

Dust is your middle name!!! LMAO Glad your back....How'd the boy do in the spelling bee?? I'm a terrible speller. Gah the one time I was put in one by my teacher I freaked out (I was in 3rd grade) and totally couldn't spell basket!! WTF LOL

Ha a size 6!!! Look at you go. I wore a size 6 in like 4th grade.....your doing awesome. Not at goal I say that proves your a success Toning yes I believe I could do that too. I think that I will always have too. I'm terrified of bat wings. My grandma has them and has always since I can remember. I FEEL mine now!! Ugh

Glad you got to do some shopping therapy. I look forward to that day! Until then I'll listen to your shopping details haha

[No game 14,437]

He's doing great, considering he hasn't trained for this since birth like some of the other kids still left in the competition

Bat wings yes... weight loss and age a double whammy for me, when I started this I said if I get healthy lose the weight and look decent IN clothes, I'll be good.

But a little working out never hurt anyone

[NothingUpMySleeve 244]

I found the breastfeeding wars to be the most vicious and tedious of all mom battles. I would always just say that I felt boob matters were a private concern.

[aroundhky 1,174]

I found the breastfeeding wars to be the most vicious and tedious of all mom battles. I would always just say that I felt boob matters were a private concern.

"Breastfeeding wars"? I'm going to need a little more information about these please. When & where do these occur?

Seriously...there is such a thing? What is the objective.....is it a volume thing? Just don't understand how this is made into a competition.

[No game 14,437]

"Breastfeeding wars"? I'm going to need a little more information about these please. When & where do these occur? Seriously...there is such a thing? What is the objective.....is it a volume thing? Just don't understand how this is made into a competition.

Lol you and me both!!

I breast feed both of my babies and glad I did but I never felt any competition about it...

I will say I cut those little suckers off (haha little suckers) before they could walk across the room and unhook my bra for themselves though