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Mmrennau I respectfully disagree a husband input and a boyfriends input is different, your husband suppose to love you unconditionally , your boyfriend doesn't .

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sleevinit, everyone has given such great advice. Please allow me to tell you my story. Many, Many, Many years ago I was married and extremely obese. I have an exstensive family history of obesity and obesity related death. Doctors kept telling me to have surgery or I would die. My husband did not want the surgery. He did not want me to lose weight on my own. He kept telling me I was being selfish by trying to regain my health and lose weight.

After a mild mini stroke brought on by all the extra weight, he began having an affair and eventually left me.

You have to make this decision based upon what is right for you and your health. If you or your boyfriend are worried about how your body will change, ask him to join a gym with you and start excerising before surgery . This will help with muscle tone and to fight the flab post-op.

Whatever your decision it has to be based on what you want and on your health.

Good luck

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sleevinit, everyone has given such great advice. Please allow me to tell you my story. Many, Many, Many years ago I was married and extremely obese. I have an exstensive family history of obesity and obesity related death. Doctors kept telling me to have surgery or I would die. My husband did not want the surgery. He did not want me to lose weight on my own. He kept telling me I was being selfish by trying to regain my health and lose weight.

<strong>After a mild mini stroke</strong> brought on by all the extra weight, he began having an affair and eventually left me.

You have to make this decision based upon what is right for you and your health. If you or your boyfriend are worried about how your body will change, ask him to join a gym with you and start excerising before surgery . This will help with muscle tone and to fight the flab post-op.

Whatever your decision it has to be based on what you want and on your health.

Good luck

Honestly that really juat changed my mindset on getting this surgery before i wasnt sure but now i know im sure...i will get it and i know that he loves me it just my insecurities im gonna just stop doubting myself......and juat take chances.. i love myself aand for so long iave bbeen doing things for ppl and i think its time to do things for myself...thank you for that word....my surgery date is dec 14 ill defitly let you know how my life goes.. thankxx again

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sleevinit, everyone has given such great advice. Please allow me to tell you my story. Many, Many, Many years ago I was married and extremely obese. I have an exstensive family history of obesity and obesity related death. Doctors kept telling me to have surgery or I would die. My husband did not want the surgery. He did not want me to lose weight on my own. He kept telling me I was being selfish by trying to regain my health and lose weight.

<strong>After a mild mini stroke</strong> brought on by all the extra weight, he began having an affair and eventually left me.

You have to make this decision based upon what is right for you and your health. If you or your boyfriend are worried about how your body will change, ask him to join a gym with you and start excerising before surgery . This will help with muscle tone and to fight the flab post-op.

Whatever your decision it has to be based on what you want and on your health.

Good luck

Honestly that really juat changed my mindset on getting this surgery before i wasnt sure but now i know im sure...i will get it and i know that he loves me it just my insecurities im gonna just stop doubting myself......and juat take chances.. i love myself aand for so long iave bbeen doing things for ppl and i think its time to do things for myself...thank you for that word....my surgery date is dec 14 ill defitly let you know how my life goes.. thankxx again

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sleevinit, everyone has given such great advice. Please allow me to tell you my story. Many, Many, Many years ago I was married and extremely obese. I have an exstensive family history of obesity and obesity related death. Doctors kept telling me to have surgery or I would die. My husband did not want the surgery. He did not want me to lose weight on my own. He kept telling me I was being selfish by trying to regain my health and lose weight.

<strong>After a mild mini stroke</strong> brought on by all the extra weight, he began having an affair and eventually left me.

You have to make this decision based upon what is right for you and your health. If you or your boyfriend are worried about how your body will change, ask him to join a gym with you and start excerising before surgery . This will help with muscle tone and to fight the flab post-op.

Whatever your decision it has to be based on what you want and on your health.

Good luck

Honestly that really juat changed my mindset on getting this surgery before i wasnt sure but now i know im sure...i will get it and i know that he loves me it just my insecurities im gonna just stop doubting myself......and juat take chances.. i love myself aand for so long iave bbeen doing things for ppl and i think its time to do things for myself...thank you for that word....my surgery date is dec 14 ill definitly let you know how my life goes.. thankxx again

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