Attitude And Emotions

[sophiepants 489]

HEHE I'm afraid if I talk to the husband I'm gonna rip a head off and chew it!

LOL I'm just glad it gets better or somewhat better as the time goes on.

Funny thing I don't feel hungry much at all "a sick feeling if I forget to eat" but not hunger.

I do track my food and think about what I need to make my goals of calorie's and Protein alot.

Maybe just maybe its me thinking/stressing over food (even tho I don't even know I'm doing it)?

Def worth some thought.

Thanks OP for bring this topic up and Laura helpful as ever lady!!

[Seela 1,187]

I was crazy stressed out for the 3 weeks leading up to my surgery. .. but not just because of the surgery. A lot of it was due to me leaving my business for two-? Weeks. But I was able to be excited and not overly emotional. Until the day befoe surgery when I turned into a raving lunatic bi***!! Then I woke up on the morning of as if all was great and the lunacy of the day before never happened. . Go figue

[caroline2 89]

Great post! Should I be worried? My surgery is a week from today. I'm not crazy. I think I'm nesting. Making lists of what I need to buy, making sure I have what I need for hospital and at home afterwards. Yes, I'm organized. GasX, Prilosec, chap stick, heating pad, ice pack, barf bags (yes, I have them by my bed just in case), body pillow, matching gown and robe set, blender, etc. I've been in clean mode for a few days. I sure hope I don't go nuts after surgery. I will talk to my husband and grown kids just in case!

[Arts137 1,811]

Nobody says crazy. Just 'emotional'... maybe labile even. And it is not a girl thing. I sure was the same. And 5 months out I still grieve some of the security in a fatness world.

This might be a help?

http://www.weightlosssurgeon.com/old/bariatric-surgery-guide/a-new-way-of-thinking/emotional-issues

[caroline2 89]

I didn't mean literally crazy!

[Arts137 1,811]

I didn't mean literally crazy!

Opps, did NOT mean to suggest that you, me, we are crazy. Well... MAYBE I am...

[Carlotta1 401]

Thank you all for spelling out like it truly is..I just shard some of the comments with him and warned him what to expect. I need to talk to my daughters about this also.

[gmanbat 5,889]

When I was my fattest any big anger or the stress of worrisome things would put me in a dangerous place heartwise. I avoided them like the plague and learned to divert myself into other thoughts and activities. Basically I would just pray about things and then forget them using what I call applied apathy. I have found that not caring about things beyond your power to change is a blessing. I throw the load on to Someone who has the ways and means.

Now that my heart has a better environment to beat in I have kept what I learned back in Fatville. Letting people live their lives and not being responsible for controlling them or for the consequences of their bad choices is a protection to my own emotional well being. I still dispense my wisdom but once it is out it is on its own and depends on hearing ears.

[ReDbEaN 654]

This has been me...especially this past week!!! So irritable...I MISS just being able to eat for comfort... So hard sometimes...I know, I know it's not a good thing to miss, but it's there. I talk to my hubby about all of it, and he listens and tries to understand but really can't...I mean, until you've been there, how can you?? I guess I foolishly thought it would all just be well and I would be fine - no issues, no bothers...and ya crazy...I've lost 46 lbs and physically feel amazing BUT still am struggling with this.

Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone...that's reassuring

[slowtogo 301]

What helped the most?

Working out?

Physically draining yourself?

I'm tryn that next.

Mostly why I read lots on here I hafta escape sometimes !!

My temper IS a short fuse!! Was never long to start with HA But now even my animals irritate me..... sigh.....

P.S Glad its not just me "being crazy"

Sex!!!!!

[SuperFab 689]

Mine wouldn't be as fun. I'm all alone. Time to buy batteries.

[ReDbEaN 654]

Mine wouldn't be as fun. I'm all alone. Time to buy batteries.

What happened to the man you were hangin with??

[SuperFab 689]

Oh girl, long story. It's a long distance thing. He has to go back across the country to Washington state.

[ReDbEaN 654]

Oh girl, long story. It's a long distance thing. He has to go back across the country to Washington state.

Ahhh gotcha. Well I agree, not as much fun, but get the batteries anyway ;-P

[3bandds 4]

For Me. I really thought my emotions were more out of whack when I was stuffing myself with all the food I could eat every day. I haven't been sleeved yet, but have been on a very strict pre surgery diet for almost 1 month. So the pain of isolation, depression and blaming my husband for all my troubles is fresh. Not that I expect I won't have an ongoing need to work hard at dealing with emotions without food as a coping mechanism but as far as negative self talk, image, self loathing, victim mode, blame and depression. Nothing compares to when I am just eating and eating. Yes some of that is dulled with food- to a point- but then Bam it hits me and I can't escape it, no matter how much food I ate.