Coming Out of the Weight Loss Surgery Closet: What, Whether, Why, and How

[Living The Dream 8]

I too have not been sleeved yet but for some reason I am compelled to tell everyone. I think it is my excitement that I have hope for a nice looking healthy body.

Most people are supportive. I've had the occasional skinnies tell me 'Your not THAT BIG' to which I now reply 'do you know when a small person like you says something like that to a big person like me how it sounds? ' I hear you say I'm not THAT FAT, well in your opinion just HOW FAT do you think I should be to qualify?

This pretty much shuts the down.

My dad's wife, who is a tiny person, was not so much concerned about the surgery but more about the fact that she felt concerned i would get kidnapped in MX where I'm getting sleeved.

[Elaine Sunday 26]

I didn't tell people for a long time that I was going to have the surgery (sleeve). I felt like a failure to have to resort to surgery to lose weight. My surgeon and 2 other medical drs have explained to me that my body has lost the ability to lose weight, no matter what I did. Also being on insulin made it just about impossible to lose. It wasn't until right before surgery that I felt ok to finally talk about it.

Last night, I went to my sisters house, gave all the kids a mini cake for Halloween. My 13 yr old niece ate her cake, made a sandwich, ate that, then fixed mac and cheese, All within 45 minutes. I joked with her and said, woow watch out or You will need was. She looked at me and said, "well, I am sure I will have more motivation then you did." Well that was a slap in my face. I get it, she is only 13 and don't know what its like, but made me think that thats how society will see me. Not a happy thought.

[crystalsleeve 36]

I have openly shared my decision to have sleeve in Dec but I have been guarded on Facebook. I haven't shared my decision or how I'm doing on my preop diet. I've lost 58 lbs already but I don't want to share that or any updated pictures. If someone asked I wouldn't hide it but I am afraid to share. I think it's that fat girl brain that reminds me of all of my failures in the past that afraid this won't last. It's so hard to change that thought process. I also feel like I would be gloating or annoying people. Isn't that sad that my brain thinks sharing monumental improvements in my health is bad.

[Mojo56 88]

Alex, I couldn't agree more with what you posted! Well said!! I've told everyone to point I'm a little tired of the story. Last night my wife went to a party, I'm I week from surgery and didn't want the temptations so I stayed in and watched football. With my permission she announced to everyone what. My plans and reasons are. All were supportive. Tomorrow I plan to email all my employees about my health and surgery.

[tamg26k 479]

I only told my family and just a few close friends that I was having bypass prior to surgery. Once the surgery was over I pretty much shared with everyone that comments on my weight loss. I want to be completely up front with everyone. I'm not ashamed nor embarrassed that I had the surgery. I know over the last 4 months I have worked really hard and am so proud of my lifestyle change. Everyone is really supportive!