Devastating News Today And I Didn't Turn To Food

[donna12 742]

For the past 2 yrs my brother has been battling colon cancer, for a few months he was in remission until a few wks ago when he had a PET scan done and they found a tumor behind his belly button. They started aggressive chemo which made him very sick and of course unable to work. Well today, today starts out with a call from my mom's sister to let us know that she gets a call from her dr to let her know that her biopsy came back as colon cancer then the dreaded call from my brother came later after he had another scan today. His tumor has gotten bigger instead of shrinking. Dr's don't want to operate at this time, not sure why, don't know if I'm being guarded as the little sister and not being told or if they really don't know. He was referred to another hospital in Nashville to a specialist to start a different kind of chemo that takes 8 to 10 hrs of chemo at a time. I literally don't know how much more his body can hold up, he is already worn out and weak and sick. For the first time in my life I didn't turn to food, I didn't want to eat today. Honestly I don't know how my mom is holding up thru all this worry. Of course many of you know we live together since my divorce so I'm here to keep her company.

I just feel like dr's are just trying to prolong his life and there is no hope, I hate to say that but it coming back in a different place is not good. We are a strong Christian family and the power of prayer is strong and mighty. Thanks for listening.

[DELETE THIS ACCOUNT! 12,703]

Oh my goodness, my heart goes out to you. I will keep all of you in my prayers

((hugs))

[Bandista 7,466]

Dear Donna, my thoughts are with you and your family. Being able to stay present, even when that is an emotionally devastating place, and not use food as an escape, is something you should be very proud of. Don't forget to take extra special care of yourself during this time.

[☠carolinagirl☠ 18,721]

sorry to read this...my thoughts to you and your family

i do know in times if extreme stress/situations, turning to food was an option..it just made me feel better briefly and then id get mad at myself for having no control...donna, you may not be able to control some things, but you just proved/showed yourself that yes you can control what you can/cant eat.....hang in there

[Maddy1 55]

So sorry to hear your terrible news. You are being very strong. May God hold your family extra close........

[Debbie3sons 1,936]

You have learned through this journey of what to not and what to do I am sorry that your family is not doing well but remember you are finally taking care of you as we do forget to take time and care for ourselves cause we want to take care of everybody else first , , it is great to hear though that you did not turn to what we know is our real comfort (food) so it is good just keep yourself busy and you won't be thinking of food just make sure to get your drinks and Protein and do what is good for you, and your family.

[dawalsh 919]

So sorry to hear of your situation. Thoughts and prayers are being sent to you and your family. Godspeed to your brother:-)

[gowalking 10,790]

So sorry to hear of your troubles Donna. Just know that there are many in this community and on this forum who are thinking of you and your family and wishing you all the best.

[m1aman 944]

So sorry Donna. Will pray for you guys.

[MistyfortheMountain 119]

So sorry to hear of your families troubles. Sending prayers your way.

[chasingadream 1,311]

Thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

Good job on hanging tough and not turning to the one thing that can sabotage all of your hard work.

[donna12 742]

thank you all so very much for your hearfelt prayers and well wishes. I am at a plateau right now and have been for 2 to 3 months now. Went out with a very dear fellow band friend tonight for dinner, it was good to get out and talk and get away, she is special to our family and to be able to talk about our bands was helpful too and our daily struggles with it. Lord knows I've had mine, whew. lol. I did treat myself to some ice cream at Chick fil A after we ate, had been months since I had had ice cream, boy was it good. You guys are like family too, you care so much.

I live an hour and half away from my brother and its so hard for all of us to get together. With him starting this new chemo treatments that lasts all day I'm sure he will not be up to traveling our way so it will be up to mom and I to travel to south Nashville. I hope to make this Christmas a very special one with him. He means the world to me, he is such a joker and makes people laugh even now, with all this going on, he will say it is what it is and life must go on, live life everyone. He has a good attitude and stays positive and has the most wonderful wife a guy could ask for. She works full time and 99% of the time he is up sick during the night and she stays up with him and then goes on to work, I certainly don't know how she keeps up but she will tell you, she loves him. I couldn't ask for a better sister n law to take care of him like she does.

I will share this before I shut up, 2 weeks ago they vacationed in Destin Fla. When my brother called the woman with the condo for rates and avail, she asked if he was flexible and he told her he had cancer and on his good week (when he felt good) that would be the week they would need to come and she replied I tell ya what, you guys come ahead and stay in my condo for free for the week, enjoy yourselves, relax, enjoy the beach, seafood, get your mind off of your sickness and refresh and my brother said to her I didn't tell you that to get a free week and she said I know, I just feel compelled to do this for you. They enjoyed 8 days in Destin to say the least and thanks to the kindness of this random woman that owned a condo. wow...there are still good people in this world.

[cjackie391 11]

Praying for you and your family! I lost my sister 3 years ago on October 27 in a tragic car accident just after finding out she had stage 4 pancreatic cancer:( my heart ache for you and your family

[donna12 742]

Praying for you and your family! I lost my sister 3 years ago on October 27 in a tragic car accident just after finding out she had stage 4 pancreatic cancer:( my heart ache for you and your family

Praying for you and your family! I lost my sister 3 years ago on October 27 in a tragic car accident just after finding out she had stage 4 pancreatic cancer:( my heart ache for you and your family

Thank you so much, my heart aches for you as well.

[SandyM 1,956]

You and your family are in my prayers.