negativity

[mzshay35 215]

I really like this site.Some of you are so much help but it's one person on here every time I read your comments you are so mean and negative to people your comment are so rude I wish I could block you I don't like that type of vibe I think imma try to find another sight its depresding to see this ijs

Mz Shay

[Doing It 4 Them 84]

I wouldn't leave the site because of one person. I don't know how to do it but I bet there is a way to block this person if you aren't interested in reading their posts.

[mzshay35 215]

I wouldn't leave the site because of one person. I don't know how to do it but I bet there is a way to block this person if you aren't interested in reading their posts.

They haven't said nothing to me but I read some of what they say to others its just so mean this is to help and share I just don't get it

Mz Shay

[mzshay35 215]

I wouldn't leave the site because of one person. I don't know how to do it but I bet there is a way to block this person if you aren't interested in reading their posts.

They haven't said nothing to me but I read some of what they say to others its just so mean this is to help and share I just don't get it

Mz Shay

[mzshay35 215]

I wouldn't leave the site because of one person. I don't know how to do it but I bet there is a way to block this person if you aren't interested in reading their posts.

They haven't said nothing to me but I read some of what they say to others its just so mean this is to help and share I just don't get it

Mz Shay

[Doing It 4 Them 84]

I understand what you mean. : )

[Mid West 99]

Don't leave! It's hard to read peoples comments sometimes in any forum but this us definitely the best one for RNY. Just accept that we all differ and that's what makes it so great Who is it by the way? I know it's not me bc I'm lovely lol xx

[mzshay35 215]

Don't leave! It's hard to read peoples comments sometimes in any forum but this us definitely the best one for RNY. Just accept that we all differ and that's what makes it so great Who is it by the way? I know it's not me bc I'm lovely lol xx

Its not you lol I dont want to say just don't like it that's all

Mz Shay

[vicki s 146]

dont leave mz shay...just ignore the mean comments, ive seen some on here too...i just ignore them and look for all the nice, very encouraging, and very supportive comments, they do seem to out weigh the negativity...I would miss seeing you on the site..

[terry1118 1,274]

The printed word can sometimes be misunderstood because, unlike when we talk in person, you can't hear the 'tone' of the words. You can't tell if someone is being funny, sarcastic, angry, or happy. Some people don't have the vocabulary to say what they really mean and use words or phrases that mean something else entirely, completely unintentionally. We have to be understanding and overlook these types of things that may be purely innocent.

Some people 'tell it like it is', or think they do. What it really is, is an opinion. Opinions are just that - opinions. It's what a person thinks and it isn't always (maybe even RARELY) based on fact. Opinions are just one person's perception of a thing. Sometimes the person who 'tells it like it is' can make you see something in a way you didn't consider before. It can be a good thing.

And then there are 'trolls'. These are people who like to stir up trouble by deliberately making comments that offend or anger others. Then they sit back and watch the sparks fly. One board that I belonged to was almost destroyed by 'trolls' making offensive comments in a 'hit and run' fashion. The best defense against 'trolls' is to ignore them. They want a reaction - don't give them one.

A lot of people here genuinely want to help by sharing their experiences, offering encouragement, and celebrating successes (their own and yours). At times we seek advice and sometimes sympathy from others who have already gone through things that we find bewildering. It's comforting to know things will improve and get tips to cope with our problems.

What all of the above have in common is that they are all comments made by people we have never met and likely never will. Whether positive or negative, you are the one who chooses what to read and when/if to respond. Just ignore what you don't like and enjoy the rest. You don't need to abandon the whole board. There is WAY more positive here than negative! :-)

[mzshay35 215]

Its a way to talk to people I was taught if you can't say nothing nice don't!!!!!! Say anything at all

Mz Shay

[DLCoggin 1,788]

I agree completely with what Terry said above but if it comes down to leaving the forum vs. blocking the posts of a member, you do have that option.

Click on your profile name (upper right side of any page) and then click on "Manage Ignore Prefs". From that screen, enter in the member name that you want to ignore and then click the "Posts" box (and/or any of the other options). You will not see content started by that member. I've never used it so I don't know if you will continue to see comments posted by that member in response to a thread started by another member. Perhaps you can test it and PM me with the answer?

If you do a little checking I think that you'll quickly discover that this is hands down the best forum there is for RnY patients. This is an amazingly supportive and informative group of folks!!

[mzshay35 215]

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Mz Shay

[mzshay35 215]

wish I can block a few

Mz Shay

Mz Shay

[patticake1448 78]

Don't leave Mz Shay! I love reading your posts! Hope u really can block the negative posters. If not, block them from your mind. Most of us are positive, just like you:-)