"Support"

[LessofKat 38]

So my husband claims to be "supportive" but he gets all bent out if shape when I ask him to go to the support group meetings or if I ask him to go walking with me, so I say screw it and not go! I have got to get it in my head that I can do this with or without him!! Has anyone else had this problem with so called "support"?

[TurnThePage 220]

All of us who are single go to meetings and do our program by ourselves. While it would be nice if your husband was supportive, you are sabotaging yourself by not going. So now he's not the problem, you are!

Time to pull up your big girl panties and take control of your own life. You'll find it is really empowering when you do! Take good care of yourself--you deserve to be your best!

[LessofKat 38]

Thanks!! I'm actually walking now!! I pretty much feel like a single person!! Lol. After I wrote that I thought about how it sounded and quickly reminded myself that I'm a strong independent person it's just kinda depressing when the person who's supposed to be your biggest supporter is the one who keeps you down. This is my time and he doesn't want to be there he will be left behind!!

[Sparklette 381]

At the end of the day your biggest supporter is yourself. You decide if you want to succeed. You push yourself. this transformation is for you and your health. Don't make your husband out to be the scapegoat for your failure/success. At the end of the day it is up to YOU.

[TurnThePage 220]

Attagirl! You know, the meetings may be hard or really boring for him. Usually there are more women than men and women tend to speak in terms of their emotions. A lot of men can't understand or deal with that. Try to imagine yourself going to a meeting about fly fishing lures or motorcycles and you'll get the picture. Let those unrealistic expectations go and you won't be disappointed or depressed. Just get in the car and drive yourself to a meeting and you'll feel better and be better company when you get home.

Work with him to encourage him to be supportive in other ways, not bringing Snacks in the house, helping you with some of the chores, going for a walk with you, whatever. People do better when you let them do some things their way. :-)