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How much weight have you lost?.. I get asked that all the time. Stupid thing is I am only two weeks two days post op! Do people honestly believe I will lose all my excess weight in a couple weeks? I am not dropping rapidly, in fact I have held 270lbs for a couple days now. Whoopie. I am not worried or stressed by it. I know it was my decision to be open about having surgery. I have been lucky that the majority of those who know have been supportive or at the least curious. (only a couple jealous Negative Nancys) But come on peeps- it didn't go on overnight and it will NOT come off overnight. I lost around 30lbs on my own before I had surgery. ( From the first of August) My highest weight was 316lbs this past summer. So right now 270lbs feels much better. In fact, I haven't been this in over probably 8-10 years! I had the surgery. I am following the plan. I do need to exercise more, I will give that. But I do not expect magic and know it will happen when it happens. I am confident in what I am doing and what the results will eventually be... Yet daily being asked how much have I lost, this soon after surgery, well it is kind of aggravating. I know they can tell I lost weight since summer, but I haven't changed drastically since 10/21. I guess I will just chalk it up to a positive and try to let it go...At least they can see I am reworking this old body of mine!!!

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I tell people that I don't weight myself! This is of course a big fat lie, but, I don't think it's anyone elses business and just because I've had the surgery doesn't necessarily mean I feel comfortable talking about my weight.

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Just because you are open about your surgery, still doesn't mean you are obligated to answer every bonehead question.

When people ask me how much I've lost, I tell them "a bunch."

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I get that question a lot, too, and I just figure it's their way of trying to be encouraging and supportive. I would definitely rather deal with people trying to be supportive & slightly missing the mark than with people being negative.

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My biggest pet-peeve is everyone feels like they have to tell me I look great every time they see me - even if its 2 days later and my weight is the exact same. i'm glad I have supportive friends, but sometimes its like... give it a rest people. haha

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My biggest pet-peeve is everyone feels like they have to tell me I look great every time they see me - even if its 2 days later and my weight is the exact same. i'm glad I have supportive friends, but sometimes its like... give it a rest people. haha

Hahaha...back over the summer, my husband was painting our house. When I had lost somewhere around 40 lbs, I helped him paint the final side he had to do. My knees are really bad, so previously I would not have been able to stand long enough to really help him. But with 40 lbs gone, I could actually provide some real assistance & I was proud of that. Of course, since we were painting, I was wearing my nasty painting clothes & a bandana on my head. We posted some pix on FB to show us finally getting finished with the painting & me being able to help. Suddenly there were all these crazy comments about how great I look. WTH??? Seriously, people....I'm looking as rough as it gets...I'm covered in paint, sweat, and dirty, ginormously baggy, paint-encrusted clothes. NOBODY looks good like that! It was like suddenly everyone I know had gone blind or crazy...or both! :P

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I have 3 rules about weight:

1. Never weigh

2. Never tell anyone what I weigh

3. Never date anyone who weighs less than I do

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How much weight have you lost?..

Do you know what I find annoying? When your best friend asks and you answer and she says "that's all" I was shocked and a little hurt than found myself making excuses. "It's normal, I'm the average, I lost a lot at first now I avg 10# a month" why am I making excuses? I haven't lost 10# a month in over 5 years. 3 months ago if I cleaned my sons dance studio it nearly killed me, I could hardly talk, I was red and sweaty. Now I clean like its nothing. I can run up FLIGHTS of stairs and talk at the top. I went on an 8 mile bike ride today two days ago 5 miles the day before that 6 miles. So yeah since I had surgery Aug 27th I have "only" lost 32.5 # but I have gained so much more! And really from my pre op diet I am 42.5 and overall nearly 55#. Some people need to slow their roll. I think so many people are set on bypass losses that the sleeve losses seem so much less.

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