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Am now 2 pounds away from meeting 50% of my weight loss goal. So what do I do? Completely fall (OK, I face planted) off the wagon this weekend. Makes perfect sense, right? I know I want to get to goal more than anything in the world right now, so why did I do this? This is my usual MO when I tried to lose weight in the past. Lose a bunch, people notice, get to a goal, then revert back to old ways and gain everything back.

Any fellow self saboteurs out there that can offer some advice on what you've done to prevent future sabotage attempts?

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Don't panic, nobody is 100% perfect all of the time, recognize what you did and carry on doing the right thing instead of worrying. As for your usual cycle, maybe counseling would help? Some people use their weight as a sort of defense mechanism, not saying you are one of those but maybe you should think about it.

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Stand back and prepare for the stampede by those of us who recognise this behaviour!

But, this time you are owning it and the weekend isn't even over yet. So maybe it's not going to be the same as what's happened before? We all get it wrong from time to time and the old ways break through. But that's life, we stay vigilant and we deal with being human.

So, put this behind you, dust yourself down and jump back on the wagon. You know what to do. And you have loads of support on here. You haven't failed, you had a moment and you will only do long term harm if you do it again tomorrow - and the day after - and the day after. You get the picture.

Good luck, you are almost half way there, well done

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I can relate to this. Sometimes I feel like I am afraid of succeeding. I think I fear the perceived expectations people will have of me when I lose weight. Like everyone is watching me and judging me. I just want to crawl back into my safe zone.

About 8 years ago I went on a diet and exercise plan and lost 90 pounds. I looked fabulous. I had so much trouble with haters. I even got talked to by my manager about "toning" it down. She told me that I should want people in my meetings to remember what I have to say not what I look like. WTF?

This time around I am not going to let anything discourage me. Haters can go pound sand.

You can do this!

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Am now 2 pounds away from meeting 50% of my weight loss goal. So what do I do? Completely fall (OK' date=' I face planted) off the wagon this weekend. Makes perfect sense, right? I know I want to get to goal more than anything in the world right now, so why did I do this? This is my usual MO when I tried to lose weight in the past. Lose a bunch, people notice, get to a goal, then revert back to old ways and gain everything back.

Any fellow self saboteurs out there that can offer some advice on what you've done to prevent future sabotage attempts?[/quote']

I got up this morning and cleared the crap out. That means Cookies went into the garbage, candy went into my hubby's truck (he can take it to work). I literally have to get that sh*t out of the house. Pushing Water today to rehydrate (going off the rails for me also means I stop drinking Water since we can't eat & drink). Making some high Protein veggie dip (use cottage cheese vs. sour cream) so that I want to eat veggies. Going walking with a girlfriend later this morning. Esentially, I'm pissed at myself and getting my gameface on today. I may even splurge today and go shopping for a new dress one size smaller just to keep me focused. We can do this!

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I got up this morning and cleared the crap out. That means Cookies went into the garbage, candy went into my hubby's truck (he can take it to work). I literally have to get that sh*t out of the house. Pushing Water today to rehydrate (going off the rails for me also means I stop drinking Water since we can't eat & drink). Making some high Protein veggie dip (use cottage cheese vs. sour cream) so that I want to eat veggies. Going walking with a girlfriend later this morning. Esentially, I'm pissed at myself and getting my gameface on today. I may even splurge today and go shopping for a new dress one size smaller just to keep me focused. We can do this!

No Sh*t erp is in the house! I am getting out of the way. You go get 'em!

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Thank you all for the feedback! I definitely use my weight as a security blanket, hit the nail right on the head there. You're all right, tomorrow is a new day and I'm trashing this "womp, womp, womp" attitude along with all the processed crap in my pantry!

Good luck erp, let me know how you do this week!

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I am feeling the same thing coming on as it sinks in that the weight is really coming off. But I won't let it get me! LOL

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I do this on a regular basis, like ohhh I just about succeeded so I think I'm going to sabotage myself now, then I can come up with a hundred excuses why I couldn't make it work! You screwed up, I hope it was at least fun, tomorrow, get right back on track...and remember to give yourself a break. You're worth it :-)

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