wondering if anyone. ....

[onmyway180 1]

I'm wondering if anyone is getting the same feedback as me? Some of my family members and some of my friends all tell me I don't know why you had it done, you look just fine the way you were. They are all thin and some of them I might add sometimes made me feel uncomfortable because of their comments of what I ate when I was 245.

[kledislynn's mommy 12]

My family is trying to talk me out of mine...

[onmyway180 1]

They tried to do the something with me

. My doctor had my file for four years cause I let everyone talk me out of it. Till finally I said I'm doing this for me and I had it done. My only regret is that I didn't have it four years ago. I just hate the dumb comments they give me now. Like if you have to be on a liquid diet then maybe you should of done that a long time ago without paying money to have the surgery.

[Slimleo74 5]

Sorry U having to deal with that....my folks & friends are fussing about..why are u wanting that done- my response is because i want to...just live your life & stand firm on whats GOOD for U! I wish they was more supportive but, i'm dealing with that too & havent had surgery yet!

[kledislynn's mommy 12]

I weight 227 and my dad is the worst when it comes to comments and jokes. I just politely excuse my self and go home or outside. I am opting not to tell my family about my surgery because of the negativity they all have towards EVERYTHING... I wish you the absolute best and you keep your head high and stand your ground darlin.

[kledislynn's mommy 12]

My previous post was supposed to say my friends are trying to talk me out of it sorry

[Camella 209]

I still have approximately 40 lbs to lose and my family have started telling me that I look fine now. Even though I'm still 40 lbs overweight. I think they have kind intentions and my husband truly thinks I look great. I am more focused on my health. Looking better has been a bonus, but, being healthier is invaluable!

[onmyway180 1]

Thank you both. I wish you both luck. I think I will do that just smile and say excuse me and walk off.

[onmyway180 1]

Exactly! !!!!! That's what I tell everyone I didn't do this for my Jean size and cause I want to be showing off. ..I did this cause I want to be able to be there for my husband, my kids and any future grandkids.

[MetroDetroitChic 86]

My doctor gave me a fabulous statistic, that for me, really puts things in perspective, and helps calm the nay-sayers:

"Stunkard and McLaren-Hume's 1959 study of 100 obese individuals, which indicated that, 2 y after treatment, only 2% maintained a weight loss of 9.1 kg (20 lb) or more (1)" Source: http://ajcn.nutrition.org/content/82/1/222S.full

I personally have one hundred pounds to lose. If only 2% of dieting folks are successful with 20lbs, how successful do you think I would be at losing 100lbs??? Do those people think I am magically in the top 2% percentile of weight loss capability? Um yeah, probably not.

One more statistic on why this will work -- from Wikipedia:

"In general, the malabsorptive procedures lead to more weight loss than the restrictive procedures; ... A meta-analysis from University of California, Los Angeles, reports the following weight loss at 36 months:[5]

Biliopancreatic diversion — 117 Lbs / 53 kg

Roux-en-Y gastric bypass (RYGB) — 90 Lbs / 41 kg

Open — 95 Lbs/ 43 kg

Laparoscopic — 84 Lbs / 38 kg

Vertical banded gastroplasty — 71 Lbs / 32 kg

The maximum weight loss occurs in the first 10 months after surgery. More recent studies have demonstrated that the medium (3–8 years) and long term (> 10 years) weight loss results for RYGB and LAGB become very similar.[23] However, the range of excess weight loss for LAGB patients (25% to 80%) is much broader than that of RYGB patients (50% to 70%). Data (beyond 5 years) for sleeve gastrectomy indicates weight loss statistics similar to RYGB."

.. So there you have it. I'm not doing this because its easy. I am doing this because it will work. I am doing this because I don't want to putz around for the next decade trying to diet and winding up as a failure. I've already lost/gained 50+ lbs two times in my life.

I want my life back and this is statistically the best option I have available to me.

Tell them these statistics. Maybe that will click with them.

-Beth

[onmyway180 1]

Thanks Beth that's great info I'm going to share when they start with their criticism.

[Mel1071 149]

My doctor gave me a fabulous statistic' date=' that for me, really puts things in perspective, and helps calm the nay-sayers:

"Stunkard and McLaren-Hume's 1959 study of 100 obese individuals, which indicated that, 2 y after treatment, only 2% maintained a weight loss of 9.1 kg (20 lb) or more (1)" Source: http://ajcn.nutrition.org/content/82/1/222S.full

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I can't believe your doc can't get more recent stats than one over 50 years old.

[MetroDetroitChic 86]

I can't believe your doc can't get more recent stats than one over 50 years old.

There were others she quoted. The 2% stat stuck with me. When I looked it up to see if I remembered it right, this was the study date I found. Sorry if it doesn't work for you. Maybe it will work for some others though.

[Mel1071 149]

I was under the impression from your post that your doc had quoted a decades old study - that concerned me thinking he/ she is not doing more up to date research. That's what "didn't work for me."