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Im having surgery on tuesday and now my long tine bf has just been plain mean. I dont understand y hes being so nasty. This surgery xan still have its problems so u think he would want to spend good times with me.

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Not to generalize but...okay let's generalize :) I think it's not uncommon for men to deal with fear and uncertainty by needing to be alone or pushing people away, whereas it's more common for women to get more needy and clingy to deal with fear and uncertainty. He may be worried about you and that may be how he's dealing with it.

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I'm gonna have to disagree, Gamer. I have been fortunate enough not to have men in my life like that so I think while that may be true in some cases, it's an unfair generalization.

If this *is* the case here, it's unacceptable IMO. Have you asked him point blank? I would! You need support, not emotional distress. You are about to go through some big changes physically, chemically and emotionally and you deserve to be treated with love and understanding at all times. PERIOD.

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I'm gonna have to disagree' date=' Gamer. I have been fortunate enough not to have men in my life like that so I think while that may be true in some cases, it's an unfair generalization. If this *is* the case here, it's unacceptable IMO. Have you asked him point blank? I would! You need support, not emotional distress. You are about to go through some big changes physically, chemically and emotionally and you deserve to be treated with love and understanding at all times. PERIOD.[/quote']

Well said.

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Not to generalize but...okay let's generalize :) I think it's not uncommon for men to deal with fear and uncertainty by needing to be alone or pushing people away' date=' whereas it's more common for women to get more needy and clingy to deal with fear and uncertainty. He may be worried about you and that may be how he's dealing with it.[/quote']

I completely agree, Gamer, and dealt with the exact same behavior from my husband in the days that preceded my surgery. He was worried and scared and that revealed itself as angry and mean. He's been great ever since I got out of recovery.

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Same here my huney gave me a hard time the week before all the way up until the day of surgery...but after surgery he has been great he was just scared to loose me....So glad we are past this part!!!!

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Ok so had my surgery yesterday and he sure snapped out of what ever was going on with him.

So glad to hear! Hope you're feeling as well as can be expected for the day after surgery. Congrats!

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Yes im doing much better today. Yesterday was hard 1st day gone so much gas. I got a little bit of the dry heaves. To day i have been able to eat everything on my list today.

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