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[ljperez 87]

This has been so hard I don't post much because I feel like a failure. I need some help and don't want anyone to know. I have struggled with this weight loss and maybe I wasn't ready for the surgery. I can't keep my calorie intake up I never want to eat and my Water is sometimes not so good, I'm stressed all the time. Now I realize it's been my marriage. I have been trying to keep it together for so many years I will admit I did take a lot of crap just because I didn't think I could do any better and having children I kept it all in. Now I haven't lost as much as I should and I beat myself up everyday I work out like a crazy person just to get it out of my head. I thought maybe if I lost all the weight it would be better now instead of doing things that he did before (I think) he is preparing for a life for himself because he is afraid of all the things he has done to me and it will catch up and I will leave him. I don't know if this makes sense to anyone I have a hard time explaining it. I haven't done anything to give him that idea I don't go out I haven't even bought many new clothes just enough to get me by while I go down in size. I haven't lost a pound in 4 months. I am 1yr and 1month out and I compare myself to everyone else on the board (I know I shouldn't) but I do. I'm so far away from my goal I feel worse now than I did before I had the surgery. At least then I could just hide away and no one expected anything from me. Now everyone who I told (which isn't a lot) is expecting me to loose and look a certain way. I'm feeling so stressed out I wasn't ready and I am admitting it now. It's so much pressure.

[1SuperBonBon 221]

This seems to be very difficult time for you. So much going on in a lot of different areas of your life.

I was reviewing your profile and I think you have done very well. You have lost 56 pounds! That is great! To reach goal you only have 43 more pounds to go. You are more than 1/2 way there. There is no defined time limit to reach your goal. It is a work in progress.

I can agree that not losing any weight in 4 months can be discouraging and frustrating. BUT another way of looking at is that you have maintained a 56 pound weight loss.

I don't have all the facts on what you are eating, how much you are eating, how much you are exercising, etc. So not sure how to guide you to kick start the weight loss again. Besides, I only know what I have read thus far on here about what to do. I am still waiting to be sleeved. This said I will let the Vets chime in with their encouragement, advice, and thoughts.

I hope you feel better soon.

Bonnie

[Arts137 1,811]

feel free to keep in touch here, but also consider the value of a professional therapuyic relationship.

PS, you deserve the Best!!! And sometimes weight loss comes second.

[thinnerdaysahead 48]

I agree with Bonnie, losing 56 pounds is quite an achievement. Remember muscle weighs more than fat - have you taken your measurements? Stay in touch with the group - you will find support. You are worth the effort - think of what a good role model you are for your children. Best wishes.