Telling weight loss

[sophiepants 489]

OK, I'm wondering when asked about how much weight you've lost do you reply with the total amount. Meaning from the first doctors appointment, to include the medically supervised diet and pre op diet. Or just from the day of surgery on? Do you tell different people different weights, as in 50 since surgery and 60 before for a total of 110? Or on here is it the total over all or just since surgery? I find myself telling family and friends the longer version, and on here on my ticker just since surgery. Just wondering how others view there success? Any comments are helpful

[notmeanymore 629]

Everyone is different but I tell people from my highest pre-surgery weight which was 242, Im at 146 so 96 pounds gone so far! I dont say 'pre-surgery' though. I just say Ive lost 96 pounds so far since last June (which is when I started everything).

[PdxMan 4,292]

I usually tell them on the low side ... I don't want them to know how big of a (fill in the blank) I was.

[Macy6 356]

For forum and group purposes I do the whole breakdown.... High Weight, Pre Op Weight, Day of Surgery Weight.... For everyone else I just do a total. I hate feeling like it is necessary to break it down. A loss is a loss, why does it matter if it came from surgery or before surgery? Honestly my highest was around a week before I had my first bariatric appt. I have lost all of my weight from my highest since starting this journey, part of it was required (a 5lb loss before paperwork was submitted) but I was already down 7lbs from my heaviest when I met with the clinic. Granted what he doesn't know is that during my 6mo pre op diet I actually gained to my heaviest at one point.

[1SuperBonBon 221]

For forum purposes, I am breaking it down. For everyone else, I have decided I will just say, "a lot" and smile. LIke PdxMan eluded to..... I don't need people doing the math.

[ReDbEaN 654]

I usually tell them on the low side ... I don't want them to know how big of a (fill in the blank) I was.

Aww...you should be PROUD of yourself!! Not thinking you were a (fill in the blank)!!!

[PdxMan 4,292]

Aww...you should be PROUD of yourself!! Not thinking you were a (fill in the blank)!!!

Oh, I don't think I was a (fill in the blank), I just don't want them to think I was a (fill in the blank). The few times I have been honest with folks who aren't on this board, the reactions have been like, "Wow! No wonder you had surgery." Or, "Wow, if I was that big, I probably would have had surgery, too!" Or, "Really, you didn't look like that big of a fat ass!"

It's funny because now that I have lost the weight, I think people who thought negatively of me or my weight now feel they have license to say something like this and it won't hurt my feelings. Perhaps I'm oversensitive, or maybe not. I don't know. At times, when I have talked to people about the sleeve, they catch me still referring to myself as an overweight person. This whole journey is quite vast and revealing of some very deep personal things. At least, it has been for me. Quite unexpected the depths to which it has reached.

[sophiepants 489]

For forum and group purposes I do the whole breakdown.... High Weight, Pre Op Weight, Day of Surgery Weight.... For everyone else I just do a total. I hate feeling like it is necessary to break it down. A loss is a loss, why does it matter if it came from surgery or before surgery? Honestly my highest was around a week before I had my first bariatric appt. I have lost all of my weight from my highest since starting this journey, part of it was required (a 5lb loss before paperwork was submitted) but I was already down 7lbs from my heaviest when I met with the clinic. Granted what he doesn't know is that during my 6mo pre op diet I actually gained to my heaviest at one point.

I'm with ya!! I think a loss is a loss but Its strange how we break it down to people. Here it's different. Everyone does a breakdown which is helpful and so inspiring!!

[sophiepants 489]

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It's funny because now that I have lost the weight, I think people who thought negatively of me or my weight now feel they have license to say something like this and it won't hurt my feelings. Perhaps I'm oversensitive, or maybe not. I don't know. At times, when I have talked to people about the sleeve, they catch me still referring to myself as an overweight person. This whole journey is quite vast and revealing of some very deep personal things. At least, it has been for me. Quite unexpected the depths to which it has reached.

I just had that happen to me this morning. My sister was walking behind me and says....(geesh sis you really have lost a bunch of weight, I don't see fat anymore) then looks at me and says sorry that came out wrong! I love her but It's and example of how people see you. It brought me back to my younger years when she used to tease me about being chubby. Old feeling welled....then I brought myself back to the knowledge I DID SOMETHING ABOUT IT! I took control. Anyway I totally understand Your success is inspiring!!! Congrats

[ReDbEaN 654]

Oh, I don't think I was a (fill in the blank), I just don't want them to think I was a (fill in the blank). The few times I have been honest with folks who aren't on this board, the reactions have been like, "Wow! No wonder you had surgery." Or, "Wow, if I was that big, I probably would have had surgery, too!" Or, "Really, you didn't look like that big of a fat ass!"

It's funny because now that I have lost the weight, I think people who thought negatively of me or my weight now feel they have license to say something like this and it won't hurt my feelings. Perhaps I'm oversensitive, or maybe not. I don't know. At times, when I have talked to people about the sleeve, they catch me still referring to myself as an overweight person. This whole journey is quite vast and revealing of some very deep personal things. At least, it has been for me. Quite unexpected the depths to which it has reached.

Maybe I just haven't experienced that part of it yet, the part where people tell me rude things. I don't plan to tell anyone what my pre-surgery weight was, but I do tell them how much i've lost. People ARE rude though. O M G...like really?? I cannot understand some folks' rudeness!!! And I do agree, I have had some soul-searching since this began and i'm a newbie!!

[Alajane 17]

I count every ounce! The pre-op was the hardest part for me (so far!) and I want to claim credit for those pounds!