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No one told me that having this surgery would make me younger! I have regressed to the age of TWO since I cannot control my emotions whatsoever! I am literally a walking snickers commercial today. I am sick of every poind lost opening up another pocket of angry within me that has to come out. I obviously used food to swallow my emotions and my feelings pf being used and abused because I am not taking ANYONE'S BS and I am loudly speaking my mind and voicing my emotions. I am emotional and angry and my relationship and my work are suffering.

I am in counseling, but all I learned is I am co-dependent. I am a child of an alcoholic. But truthfully with how I feel I am seriously thinking the surgery is driving me to the nuthouse....

Is this normal? I am not suicidal. I am not violent. I am just fighting and screaming and stomping my feet (literally) and crying and feeling injustice against me. I have rages I cannot control. I hope it isn't like this forever...is it? Is something wrong with me?

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In my classes, they told us to that estrogen is held in fat cells and that when we lose fat, we release that estrogen. They said to expect emotional ups and downs post surgery. Hang in there!!

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It seems to be pretty normal. Built up hormones stored in fat, loss of a coping skill and really a grieving period over what life was before. It sounds like you are right in the spot you need to be! Keep up the good work and be patient. Try journaling and maybe add in some exercise if you don't already.

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Thanks, all. I do exercise! I just didn't this this roller coaster was going to be so extreme!!! Whew!

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I've been fairly b&$@?y since surgery, with no tolerance for stupid or obnoxious people LOL. I never connected it to the surgery, but maybe it is!

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Well, I am fairly certain my relationship is over. Lol. Not that he didn't have a hand in it as well. But my anger spilled over and I went nuts.

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No one told me that having this surgery would make me younger! I have regressed to the age of TWO since I cannot control my emotions whatsoever! I am literally a walking snickers commercial today. I am sick of every poind lost opening up another pocket of angry within me that has to come out. I obviously used food to swallow my emotions and my feelings pf being used and abused because I am not taking ANYONE'S BS and I am loudly speaking my mind and voicing my emotions. I am emotional and angry and my relationship and my work are suffering.

I am in counseling' date=' but all I learned is I am co-dependent. I am a child of an alcoholic. But truthfully with how I feel I am seriously thinking the surgery is driving me to the nuthouse....

Is this normal? I am not suicidal. I am not violent. I am just fighting and screaming and stomping my feet (literally) and crying and feeling injustice against me. I have rages I cannot control. I hope it isn't like this forever...is it? Is something wrong with me?[/quote']

As we lose weight & can no longer use food to cope with our feelings. Those emotions have to come out somewhere. Stick with the counseling also. Take care of yourself.

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It's not that I'm mean, but my patience has thinned. I would go about probably finding a hobby so you have an alone time to just calm yourself doing something you enjoy before going back to crazy normal life. Take baths with music and a mask with cool cucumbers on your eyes. Go jogging/ canoeing/ exercising to release endorphins. Read books that engross you in the park or in you bed as you drink a bit of wine. Try not to watch TV/ go on computer as much because that just wastes time and doesn't relax you introspectively. Yoga classes really does relax you, meditation classes are great too. Take up drawing, painting, or writing a book and let your emotions out there. If you live in a crazy world and you just snap a lot, you'll just fret and wonder why, is it my past? Is it my significant other? What is wrong? This causes less patience and more emotional ups/downs. Just take time away from crazy for a bit.

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