♕ajtexas♕ 3,771 Posted November 4, 2013 I'll be honest, Alex, combining the forums makes me nervous. I understand from the 'business' perspective, but does that make it best for us? I trust you and and knowing that you are a Bandster eases my mind. (I Just needed to voice my concerns). I look forward to the new changes (& being able to blog again!!!). Thanks for the update. 4 dylanmiles23, DELETE THIS ACCOUNT!, m1aman and 1 other reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
m1aman 944 Posted November 4, 2013 I have no reason not to believe Alex has our best interest at heart. But I gotta say mixing lap band with other surgeries makes me nervous too. I just know non banders are gonna come over and mock us. Maybe not at first, but ultimately they will (I think). Maybe I am just being negative though and things will be fine. 2 DELETE THIS ACCOUNT! and ☠carolinagirl☠ reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
m1aman 944 Posted November 4, 2013 I trust you and and knowing that you are a Bandster eases my mind. I'm glad he is a bandster too. Puts me at ease. 2 DELETE THIS ACCOUNT! and ☠carolinagirl☠ reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DELETE THIS ACCOUNT! 12,703 Posted November 4, 2013 I very much appreciate all you do and have given us, Alex. I'm sure some days you feel more like a babysitter than a forum founder and it's important you know that all your efforts on our behalf don't go unnoticed. I am extremely grateful for this forum and all you've done. I have to be honest, like others, I am nervous about these changes coming. I made Lap Band Talk my "home" because it's a safe place just for us bandsters. The thought of being thrown into a mix with all WLS patients seems like a situation just begging for conflict. The other thing is admittedly selfish on my part- but I really don't care about other WLS besides the band. My concern is for other bandsters and their needs. The experience or problems of someone with the Sleeve or Gastric Bypass is not my concern. I also don't want to be put in a position of constantly defending the band or countering band bashing myths. We have enough struggles within our own ranks already and I fear a combined WLS site will greatly diminish our sense of community and comradery and well as force us to go on the defensive. I know without a doubt you're making these changes because you truly believe they are in everyone's best interest. I know your intentions are nothing but good. But, even so, the changes worry me greatly. Thanks for hearing me out 5 JOANNE M HOLL, ☠carolinagirl☠, Alex Brecher and 2 others reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
☠carolinagirl☠ 18,721 Posted November 4, 2013 i was verbally bashed on OH when i was in the pre op stages and it damn near scared me to death...i can promise you if that starts happening on this forum, i will be leaving. 5 m1aman, JOANNE M HOLL, Alex Brecher and 2 others reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Alex Brecher 10,515 Posted November 4, 2013 Your concerns are my concerns. I plan on personally moderating the Lap-Band forums. Members that don't follow our rules will be permanently banned. We will have zero tolerance for bullying, rudeness or trolling. 6 catfish87, dylanmiles23, m1aman and 3 others reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
m1aman 944 Posted November 4, 2013 i was verbally bashed on OH when i was in the pre op stages and it damn near scared me to death...i can promise you if that starts happening on this forum, i will be leaving. I have never been there and it doesn't sound like I missed anything the way people talk about that place. If this place turns sour it will be hard to come back. But Alex said he won't let that happen... PS: Looks like we posted at the same time Alex. Perfect timing! 3 ☠carolinagirl☠, JOANNE M HOLL and Debbie3sons reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DELETE THIS ACCOUNT! 12,703 Posted November 4, 2013 Your concerns are my concerns. I plan on personally moderating the Lap-Band forums. Members that don't follow our rules will be permanently banned. We will have zero tolerance for bullying, rudeness or trolling. Thanks Alex. That is reassuring 4 m1aman, JOANNE M HOLL, ☠carolinagirl☠ and 1 other reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lisacaron 5,075 Posted November 5, 2013 So oddly I got a bunch of e-mails today from Alex, about en-rout by pass and sleeve gastrectomy for the WLS boards...but nothing about lapband...are these boards even live yet? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Alex Brecher 10,515 Posted November 5, 2013 So oddly I got a bunch of e-mails today from Alex, about en-rout by pass and sleeve gastrectomy for the WLS boards...but nothing about lapband...are these boards even live yet? We sent the same email to all members of our four wls communities (LapBandTalk, VerticalSleeveTalk, RNYTalk and SleevePlicationTalk). The new site BariatricPal isn't live yet. We're hoping to go live tomorrow night. 4 JOANNE M HOLL, GoingforGoal, lisacaron and 1 other reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lisacaron 5,075 Posted November 5, 2013 Great thanks Alex for your reply, I'll keep an eye out for it. 1 Debbie3sons reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
m1aman 944 Posted November 5, 2013 The new site BariatricPal isn't live yet. We're hoping to go live tomorrow night. I am nervous for you guys! 3 ☠carolinagirl☠, DELETE THIS ACCOUNT! and Debbie3sons reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
☠carolinagirl☠ 18,721 Posted November 6, 2013 I am nervous for you guys! like you....am nervous about all this combining..unless someone has been on the recieving end of band bashers who promised it would fail, you have no idea...its hard enough us obese/fat people are still widely accepted as targets and no one in the real world take it serious.....jeannie from band wagon told me to get off OH last year, came to my rescue and told me to come to this forum...and here i am..i really hope nothing changes alex...aside from those things i pm;d you about (people who i have blocked cant comment/quote or respond to me)....and the blogs...i have alot of blogs i wrote and ready to post my thoughts...i need this forum for support 6 DELETE THIS ACCOUNT!, JOANNE M HOLL, Debbie3sons and 3 others reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Alex Brecher 10,515 Posted November 6, 2013 like you....am nervous about all this combining..unless someone has been on the recieving end of band bashers who promised it would fail, you have no idea...its hard enough us obese/fat people are still widely accepted as targets and no one in the real world take it serious.....jeannie from band wagon told me to get off OH last year, came to my rescue and told me to come to this forum...and here i am..i really hope nothing changes alex...aside from those things i pm;d you about (people who i have blocked cant comment/quote or respond to me)....and the blogs...i have alot of blogs i wrote and ready to post my thoughts...i need this forum for support I will not allow any abusive behavior on our new forums. Bullies will be banned permanently. You know I'm always available and will deal with any bumps in the road that may arise (I'm sure they will!) We've all suffered similarly but have taken different paths to get to where we are today. Does that make one person (or procedure) better than another ? I have no problem with intelligent conversation or even arguing about the efficacy of any weight loss procedure. I will have zero tolerance for trolls or trouble makers. The weight loss surgery bashing from weight loss surgery patients (AND surgeons!!!) is what has given bariatric surgery such a bad name. If anyone feels they are being targeted, they know where to and how to reach me. Things will most definitely change....I'm hoping they're for the better. 5 dylanmiles23, DELETE THIS ACCOUNT!, ☠carolinagirl☠ and 2 others reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jim1967 3,569 Posted November 6, 2013 Not to purposely preach here but just rise above it gang. Most people do not like change but change is always inevitable. Nothing ever stays the same. Look at WLS for example. Bypass and Band were always the top options for WLS and now band in a lot of ways is being bumped by the Sleeve. Use the report button if you find problematic posts. Do not stoop down to the band bashers level. Be yourself and help keep the newbies informed and let Alex and his team do the needful. Remember each surgical procedure attracts its own "band" ( see what I did there?) of detractors or haters OK, getting down from soapbox....Be gentle I lost a lot of weight and bruise easy. 5 Alex Brecher, Debbie3sons, ☠carolinagirl☠ and 2 others reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites