Dating/Relationship....Online/Forum???

[Essence33 90]

I think there should be a dating site for WLS people. Dating someone who don't understand why people resort to WLS can be a bit difficult. They tend to be close minded. Since we know the difficulties with weight loss challenges, I believe we can understand and support one another. I'm just saying. What do you gals/guys think?

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It would be nice, but you can still meet people who are empathetic and understanding.

I actually met my current boyfriend last July, seven months after my band surgery. I was honest with him about it from the beginning and he has always been very supportive. In fact, I've lost about 120 more pounds since meeting him and he's become my biggest supporter. (We now live together, too)

[Essence33 90]

It would be nice' date=' but you can still meet people who are empathetic and understanding.

I actually met my current boyfriend last July, seven months after my band surgery. I was honest with him about it from the beginning and he has always been very supportive. In fact, I've lost about 120 more pounds since meeting him and he's become my biggest supporter. (We now live together, too)[/quote']

That's good! I wish there were more men like him...hehehe. I notice the men here in South, Florida are so shallow. I'm not saying men elsewhere isn't, but most if the men here are superficial. They want natural thin women. I meant a guy who said, "If you have WLS to control your weight, then you'll end up being fat later." I mean clearly he was a ****** bag, but I've heard some friends of mine who had bypass and lost bf's because they thought about the worst happening. Smh...I hope I find someone who is understanding and not a a*****e. However, I'm happy you met someone.

[GoingforGoal 1,734]

I can understand your logic. I was fortunate to have been banded w/ my husband on the same day. Sometimes you hear the stories of how difficult it is living with nonbanded spouses, nontheless, finding someone entirely new to understand and support you. Mis is right, of course you can find men open/understanding. However, I too would be inclined to find someone who related as it is a huge change/adjustment in your life and you don't need the problem of convincing or battling others as well.

Ironically, if you look at the chat room, there is a room for singles. It's just never used. Some of the singles should start a singles chat forum with certain days/times so you can mingle. Not sure how successful it'll be because I'm unsure how many singles are chatting etc etc. But worth a try?

[mrsto 2,925]

That's good! I wish there were more men like him...hehehe. I notice the men here in South, Florida are so shallow. I'm not saying men elsewhere isn't, but most if the men here are superficial. They want natural thin women. I meant a guy who said, "If you have WLS to control your weight, then you'll end up being fat later." I mean clearly he was a ****** bag, but I've heard some friends of mine who had bypass and lost bf's because they thought about the worst happening. Smh...I hope I find someone who is understanding and not a a*****e. However, I'm happy you met someone.

Though I met my husband here in So. California, he is from South Florida (Ft. Lauderdale). The most wonderful man on earth. I was a "normal" size when we met 8 years ago, but ballooned up to a size 22 during those years. He never once beat me up for it, nor did he ever put me down. Loves me through and through. His biggest concern is, and has always been, my health. That being said, I would venture to say that if he met me at a size 22, the attraction would not have been there. If we are really honest with ourselves, do you blame him......or men not being attracted to obese women (and vice versa)? As much as I've struggled with the same 100 pound swing in weight, I was never attracted to obese men. A bit overweight, yes. Morbidly obese, no. Just being honest......

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That's good! I wish there were more men like him...hehehe. I notice the men here in South, Florida are so shallow. I'm not saying men elsewhere isn't, but most if the men here are superficial. They want natural thin women. I meant a guy who said, "If you have WLS to control your weight, then you'll end up being fat later." I mean clearly he was a ****** bag, but I've heard some friends of mine who had bypass and lost bf's because they thought about the worst happening. Smh...I hope I find someone who is understanding and not a a*****e. However, I'm happy you met someone.

Actually, it does make sense you're having a hard time meeting men in Florida. It seems like the sunnier the climate, the more stress to look good in a bathing suit to enjoy it. I remember even going down to Georgia and feeling like a whale because it seemed like the women were a lot thinner overall than they were up here in Michigan.

I'm not sure what age guy you're looking for, but if you're looking for a younger one I bet it would be harder, too. My boyfriend and I are both 40. As much I hate being officially in my forties (I want my thirties back! lol) the plus side is- we're both too old for superficial BS. Guys my age are dealing their own issues too, be it losing hair or gaining weight, so they're not nearly as critical as a guy in his twenties or early thirties.

There are actually a couple really nice single guys on these forums, btw!! *hint! hint!*

[☠carolinagirl☠ 18,721]

there is someone for everyone..i believe that

i hope we all find (or have found) that one who loves/accepts us for US..

i am blessed..my ole man met me at my where i am heading weight......and he has been with me (in all ways) at my highest well over 330+....like msinto, he was more concerned with my health..as he is now and then..i also agree, if he saw me at my highest, he would have kept on walking...sad to sad but true..would i have done the same to a super morbid obese man? who knows...but i would see them with eyes of compassion.........and i wish to everyone with a weight problem, that the world sees them and accepts them with compassion...

[Essence33 90]

I can understand your logic. I was fortunate to have been banded w/ my husband on the same day. Sometimes you hear the stories of how difficult it is living with nonbanded spouses' date=' nontheless, finding someone entirely new to understand and support you. Mis is right, of course you can find men open/understanding. However, I too would be inclined to find someone who related as it is a huge change/adjustment in your life and you don't need the problem of convincing or battling others as well.

Ironically, if you look at the chat room, there is a room for singles. It's just never used. Some of the singles should start a singles chat forum with certain days/times so you can mingle. Not sure how successful it'll be because I'm unsure how many singles are chatting etc etc. But worth a try?[/quote']

I'm happy you see what I mean. Lucky you, got banded with your husband. That's nice! I'm gonna check out that single forum, who knows it may pop off. Its worth a try. Thanks!!

[Essence33 90]

I can understand your logic. I was fortunate to have been banded w/ my husband on the same day. Sometimes you hear the stories of how difficult it is living with nonbanded spouses' date=' nontheless, finding someone entirely new to understand and support you. Mis is right, of course you can find men open/understanding. However, I too would be inclined to find someone who related as it is a huge change/adjustment in your life and you don't need the problem of convincing or battling others as well.

Ironically, if you look at the chat room, there is a room for singles. It's just never used. Some of the singles should start a singles chat forum with certain days/times so you can mingle. Not sure how successful it'll be because I'm unsure how many singles are chatting etc etc. But worth a try?[/quote']

I'm happy you see what I mean. Lucky you, got banded with your husband. That's nice! I'm gonna check out that single forum, who knows it may pop off. Its worth a try. Thanks!!

[Essence33 90]

I can understand your logic. I was fortunate to have been banded w/ my husband on the same day. Sometimes you hear the stories of how difficult it is living with nonbanded spouses' date=' nontheless, finding someone entirely new to understand and support you. Mis is right, of course you can find men open/understanding. However, I too would be inclined to find someone who related as it is a huge change/adjustment in your life and you don't need the problem of convincing or battling others as well.

Ironically, if you look at the chat room, there is a room for singles. It's just never used. Some of the singles should start a singles chat forum with certain days/times so you can mingle. Not sure how successful it'll be because I'm unsure how many singles are chatting etc etc. But worth a try?[/quote']

I'm happy you see what I mean. Lucky you, got banded with your husband. That's nice! I'm gonna check out that single forum, who knows it may pop off. Its worth a try. Thanks!!

[Essence33 90]

there is someone for everyone..i believe that

i hope we all find (or have found) that one who loves/accepts us for US..

i am blessed..my ole man met me at my where i am heading weight......and he has been with me (in all ways) at my highest well over 330+....like msinto' date=' he was more concerned with my health..as he is now and then..i also agree, if he saw me at my highest, he would have kept on walking...sad to sad but true..would i have done the same to a super morbid obese man? who knows...but i would see them with eyes of compassion.........and i wish to everyone with a weight problem, that the world sees them and accepts them with compassion...[/quote']

Yep, Carolinagirl. I sure can agree with you on that. I wish people does see and accept others with compassion. Happy man he is and lucky as well. Wish you guys nothing but happiness.

[Essence33 90]

Though I met my husband here in So. California' date=' he is from South Florida (Ft. Lauderdale). The most wonderful man on earth. I was a "normal" size when we met 8 years ago, but ballooned up to a size 22 during those years. He never once beat me up for it, nor did he ever put me down. Loves me through and through. His biggest concern is, and has always been, my health. That being said, I would venture to say that if he met me at a size 22, the attraction would not have been there. If we are really honest with ourselves, do you blame him......or men not being attracted to obese women (and vice versa)? As much as I've struggled with the same 100 pound swing in weight, I was never attracted to obese men. A bit overweight, yes. Morbidly obese, no. Just being honest......[/quote']

I respect honesty. True enough!!

[Essence33 90]

Actually' date=' it does make sense you're having a hard time meeting men in Florida. It seems like the sunnier the climate, the more stress to look good in a bathing suit to enjoy it. I remember even going down to Georgia and feeling like a whale because it seemed like the women were a lot thinner overall than they were up here in Michigan.

I'm not sure what age guy you're looking for, but if you're looking for a younger one I bet it would be harder, too. My boyfriend and I are both 40. As much I hate being officially in my forties (I want my thirties back! lol) the plus side is- we're both too old for superficial BS. Guys my age are dealing their own issues too, be it losing hair or gaining weight, so they're not nearly as critical as a guy in his twenties or early thirties.

There are actually a couple really nice single guys on these forums, btw!! *hint! hint!* [/quote']

My point exactly! I'm 32, and I see where you're right about men in the twenties and thirties. I actually date men 10 yrs my senior anyway. hahahaha, yes, indeed I got your hint. I will check it out. I can't wait until the system is up to post pics...well pre op at least. thanks again dear.