Advise needed.. Starting over

[hopefulinNY 14]

Had lapband surgery in June . Pre and post lost 50 pounds . But now my port has become disconnected and have never had any "restriction". I have gained back 10 pounds and am having revision surgery on thur and am trying to look at this as a fresh start to get regimented and follow all rules.

Feeling like a failure and disappointed that I am have complication so early . I guess I'm just feeling sorry for myself .. But I have to succeed with this !! I know I can do it .. But so easy to fall back into old habits .

Any advise would be great .. Thanks !!

[lisacaron 5,075]

Hey Hope,

I understand where you are coming from. Set backs are never fun, but that is all that this is. It's a set back not a failure on your part at all!

Try to use this time as another tool. You know what all the rules are, and you know how the band should work, now while you are waiting to get all the parts installed in working order, is a good time to keep up and define your band practice!

Don't allow yourself to fall back into the old habits! As you said that is the easy route and you have so far taken the high road with all it's trials and tribulations. Don't lower your standards or expectations now. Keep your goals in sight my friend. One step at a time, one mile stone at a time. Go back to the band basics, and reboot.

You can and you will make this work for you!!! I have faith in you!

[SashaWLS 412]

IMHO, you'll never be "finished" so I wouldn't worry about success or failure. You've lost some. Gained some. Had a complication. Made a tweak. Lost some more. Stayed focused. Kept on it. No biggie...

Where's the failure??

It's really not about some final judgement--it's about ongoing action. You're in control some of the time. Out of control some of the time. Up. Down. You're human, and it's not a big deal... Goal weight is just a number you made up anyway. It's not real. And there is no race, no finish line, no boos, and no ticker tape parade.

Being fat or thin isn't who you are, it's what you're doing. So keep doing what you're doing and then do it more. It's all good!

[Bandista 7,466]

Best wishes to you -- you are on your way. Once your band is working well for you it's all going to be so much easier!

[JOANNE M HOLL 388]

Are you really starting over? I don't think so! The tool is just an ongoing assist on this road of healthy living. The disconnection is just a pothole that needs to be fixed and it slowed you down a bit. We all are learning what it takes to drive down this road. Your doctor is updating his skills, the manufacturer is finding what they can do to improve product, and you (the recipient) will review your past actions to be sure you travel in the right direction. Your path ahead is bright and we wish you safe travel.

Edited January 12, 2014 by JOANNE M HOLL

[cheryl2586 3,053]

Good luck with your surgery. This is never over. Even after you lose all your weight it is just as hard to maintain as to lose. Any mistakes at your maintenance and you are right back to gaining. Just look at it as they found the problem and now you can control the outcome.

[hopefulinNY 14]

Thanks all for the input . You are right I can do this ❤️

[dgoertz1 120]

My surgery was lap band with placation. Im never really hungry. I am x60 yrs old one. Everyone. It is up to you. I know overweight all my adult life. Bur stay the plan andbyou will lose!