TinyMamiOf3kids 1,280 Posted October 2, 2013 I had to open a case in a safe horizon shelter because things are starting to get out of hand. I have to leave last day of June to July 2015. I'm waiting and being patience my daughter graduate in 2015 from high school. I can't be moving around making her crazy. She has a lot of school work going for her self right now. This is the perfect time leaving in 2015. I still have the interview for housing,but my friend who is also a landlord(not mine) don't want me applying or moving into any housing project. She is funny in the sense of hey move into a luxury building in a great neighborhood,and don't worry about high rent. I know how to get you in for low rent,but in a luxury building. She's like look you live in a Co-Op great area you gonna go into low class housing project with 3 kids. Your out of your mind. I'm gonna help you out. I will find you a place in a luxury building,and low rent,and you don't have to live off the government. I must admit my friend knows me too well. I don't want to live worst,but I don't want to continue putting up with emotional abuse. She tells me don't leave with out her knowing where,and i'm going and not to a housing project so I don't want to hear you mention that anymore. let's see what happens... I will keep her in mind lmbo luxury building. I'm just saving almost every penny I get. Damn it's past 12am bed time good night Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
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deaddemmama 474 Posted October 2, 2013 I had to open a case in a safe horizon shelter because things are starting to get out of hand. I have to leave last day of June to July 2015. I'm waiting and being patience my daughter graduate in 2015 from high school. I can't be moving around making her crazy. She has a lot of school work going for her self right now. This is the perfect time leaving in 2015. I still have the interview for housing' date='but my friend who is also a landlord(not mine) don't want me applying or moving into any housing project. She is funny in the sense of hey move into a luxury building in a great neighborhood,and don't worry about high rent. I know how to get you in for low rent,but in a luxury building. She's like look you live in aCo-Op great area you gonna go into low class housing project with 3 kids. Your out of your mind. I'm gonna help you out. I will find you a place in a luxury building,and low rent,and you don't have to live off the government. I must admit my friend knows me too well. I don't want to live worst,but I don't want to continue putting up with emotional abuse. She tells me don't leave with out her knowing where,and i'm going and not to a housing project so I don't want to hear you mention that anymore. let's see what happens... I will keep her in mind lmbo luxury building. I'm just saving almost every penny I get. Damn it's past 12am bed time good night[/quote'] I'm saying this gently. Is it doing your daughter more harm to see abuse everyday? You don't want her to think that abuse of women is normal. 1 ElleG reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
deaddemmama 474 Posted October 2, 2013 Be safe, Mami...we worry about you. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ElleG 394 Posted October 2, 2013 Praying things work out for you. (HUGS) Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TinyMamiOf3kids 1,280 Posted October 2, 2013 I'm saying this gently. Is it doing your daughter more harm to see abuse everyday? You don't want her to think that abuse of women is normal. My daughter is already 16 years old. She have seen it all,and it can't get any worst then what it is. If I been with hubby for 17 years,and for the past 5/6 years she have witness the abuse another 2 years won't make a difference. I sure hope I don't sound harsh with my reply,but I have to be honest. Money is the only thing that will get you somewhere in live. If I have no money we can't do anything in this world. Depending on the government to lend me a hand I will always be broke. Counting on a lawyer to get my SSD to be approve if I was really in need as I have no money. We would all be dead counting on a disability check. If I wasn't collecting bottles in the streets my 16 year old wouldn't have allowance for the week. My car needs gas to run. I'm sorry but right now I'm in this alone. Hubby money goes all on bills,and I don't work to help pay for some of the bills. When the time comes for me to move out whatever isn't paid off. I will pay it off. That's why I'm saving money for us. This money isn't for my self. It started out that way surgery for me,but now it's saving to have a moving company take my furniture out,and either move it to my future apartment or to a storage place until I get my own place which hopefully isn't in a housing project. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
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TinyMamiOf3kids 1,280 Posted October 2, 2013 I'm saying this gently. Is it doing your daughter more harm to see abuse everyday? You don't want her to think that abuse of women is normal. Of course I wouldn't want her thinking abuse of any kind women or men to woman is normal. She knows it. She won't follow in my foot steps. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TinyMamiOf3kids 1,280 Posted October 2, 2013 Be safe, Mami...we worry about you. Thanks I'm giving it all I have. I can't do more or less then what I'm doing now. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TinyMamiOf3kids 1,280 Posted October 2, 2013 Praying things work out for you. (HUGS) thanks Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
WildGrits 101 Posted October 2, 2013 Have you looked into moving? Up here in Albany we have Catholic Charties low income housing for families. The low income sections of Albany aren't that bad. Maybe because Albany is so small. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
jerz 251 Posted October 2, 2013 Not all low income housing is "ghetto". Where I stay, it's brand new, wall to wall carpeting, new appliances, dishwasher, garbage disposal, central heat/air, 24 hr armed guard security, landscaping services, playgrounds, community center for Children where for $100/year they get after school homework help, karate, ballet, boxing, or music recording studio lessons. Everyone is respectful and respectful. DOS:358 CW:270 SD:1/28/13 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
srofe5 56 Posted October 2, 2013 Tiny Mami, It breaks my heart to read your post about the abusive husband. I know your daughter won't choose a mate like her Dad. My parents yelled and screamed and called us names an awful lot when I was growing up. I beleive this is just as abusive as physically hitting someone because it tears down the self esteem and makes you believe you are worthless. I remember telling myself, I am going to be a more loving, kind Mother and I am going to choose a more loving mate. Every day you and your daughter have to stay in that environment is one more day too many. I sure hope for your sake and your daughters that everything works out the way you are hoping. I will keep you both in my prayers. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
thermo2000 24 Posted October 2, 2013 It is my understanding that when they build a new condo complex, etc... they must integrate low income housing into a percentage of each building. You won't have a luxuy condo like your neighbors, but unless someone comes inside, they would not no any different. You will have like normal carpet, smaller unit, lower grade appliances, etc. If you not going to leave until 2015, you should get yourself on the list so that by the time you leave, your name might be called and I don't think you need a lot of money to close. Just a thought. I totally understand the money situation because I am also broke. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TinyMamiOf3kids 1,280 Posted October 3, 2013 Have you looked into moving? Up here in Albany we have Catholic Charties low income housing for families. The low income sections of Albany aren't that bad. Maybe because Albany is so small. I been in NYC all my life. I would never think of leaving unless I must better living help for my son ect.. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites