oldoneyoungagain 200 Posted November 16, 2013 When I first had weight loss surgery (band) and couldn't eat, my husband (then alive and has since died)felt so guilty that he didn't want to eat in front of me. I appreciated his thoughtfulness, but he didn't have to diet, I did, and I told him that it was fine, that I understood but he didn't have to do that. I had this surgery for myself, to live longer and to be with him. The down side he died within 1 1/2 years after that surgery. I will always be gratful for his feelings and the fact that I didn't lose sight why I had to have this surgery and why I wanted this surgery. I took responsibility for my decision, owned up to it, and never held him accountable. If he seen me today with the bypass, and how much more weight I have lost, I know how proud he would be. I am sure he is giving me a high five from above, right now, and if he could he would be telling me how beautiful I am. Life is short, even if you live to 100. Always be gratful for the seconds you have with a loved one. 1 mskami77 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tkelizabeth 0 Posted December 15, 2013 The day I got back from surgery my dad asked everyone who wanted subway, I was so mad about it because he knew I couldn't. It's something I'll need to learn to accept that others aren't on these restrictions, and I'm bettering myself so it's for the greater good. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fabboo 2 Posted October 30, 2014 Dump the dood !!! I know a guy that helped his wife regain all of her weight back, and now belittles her over this matter! He is huge and wants an eating buddy....... I have spoken to him many times over his lack of support. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites