Putting so Much Pressure on Myself

[Kcarr1120 15]

I am about 3.5 weeks out from revision of band to bypass. I feel like food, thoughts of food, exercise, MFP, Fitbit are consuming every waking moment. I just can't relax and enjoy the journey. I was self pay, so that is part of it....I am just so afraid that I won't lose this weight. I have "tested" myself in the last week with fat and sugar to see "what would happen". I think my dumping is more of a general feeling like crap, headache, cramps, super tired. I ate a Reese's Peanut Butter Cup yesterday and today I gained 1.5 lb. I am going to Overeaters Anonymous trying to get my addiction in check. I am just practically paralyzed with fear that I won't lose 100 lb in a year. I have no patience at all. I need a major reality check!

[DLCoggin 1,788]

OK - major reality check. If you follow the protocol as closely to the letter as you possibly can, you will lose weight. Period. Science and the laws of the universe cannot be denied. An awful lot of folks who have an awful lot of education have done and continue to do an awful lot of research and an awful lot of testing and have proven the success of RnY beyond any shadow of a doubt. RnY has been around for more than 30 years. There is absolutely no doubt that it is the single most effective treatment known to medical science for obesity, type2 diabetes, and more than 30 comorbidities associated with obesity. No doubt.

Stop wasting your energy on Reese's testing. Forget about testing dumping. Some very successful RnY patients n e v e r experience dumping. There is a very long list of benefits from RnY and not a single one of them is attributed to dumping. There is absolutely no scientific evidence that folks who experience dumping are any more or less successful than those who don't. Dumping has nothing to do with success.

Your goal is physical change but your challenge is mental discipline. Stay positive. Stay patient. And again, stay focused on following the protocol as closely to the letter as you possibly can. Success starts with realistic expectations. Focus all of your energy on these things. Irrational fear and "self testing" is not realistic, it's not sustainable and it's most certainly not healthy. The only thing standing between you and success is you.

Now, right this moment, realize and accept the fact that your body is going to find its own way in its own time. There are going to be times when you lose weight quickly. Times when you lose slowly. And YES, there will be times when you don't lose at all (stalls). You KNOW it's coming. You KNOW it's perfectly normal. You KNOW that you cannot change the reality. Trying to do so is a waste of time. Panicking when what you KNOW is coming eventually comes, is irrational and pointless.

Do not wait too long to seek professional help with your fears. You've come a very long way already. The finish line is in sight. There's no shame in seeking help from highly skilled, highly educated professionals who help folks conquer similar challenges every single day. Take responsibility for your own success. In the words of Winston Churchill, "It is of no use saying we are doing the best we can. Success means doing what is necessary".

You're gonna love the new you!!

[Obeasta 92]

Mr Coggin this is the best advice and words and encouragment i have read and heard EVER. And i want to thank you from the bottom of my heart.

I am going to write it down and paste it on my wall at my mirror and read it every day.

Thank you so very much. I needed to read this. Thank you, baie dankie, enkosi kakhulu, muchas gracias.

[DLCoggin 1,788]

Thank you for the kind words obeasta and you're certainly most welcome. My friends call me Dave and hopefully you will too! Lol. Have a great day!!

P.S. Love your blog. Good job!

[Kcarr1120 15]

Dave.....what can I say, but thank you so very much for taking the time to reply to my "freak out"! I will be re- reading your words of wisdom daily. Thank you!

[kinsse 171]

OK - major reality check. If you follow the protocol as closely to the letter as you possibly can' date=' you will lose weight. Period. Science and the laws of the universe cannot be denied. An awful lot of folks who have an awful lot of education have done and continue to do an awful lot of research and an awful lot of testing and have proven the success of RnY beyond any shadow of a doubt. RnY has been around for more than 30 years. There is absolutely no doubt that it is the single most effective treatment known to medical science for obesity, type2 diabetes, and more than 30 comorbidities associated with obesity. No doubt.

Stop wasting your energy on Reese's testing. Forget about testing dumping. Some very successful RnY patients n e v e r experience dumping. There is a very long list of benefits from RnY and not a single one of them is attributed to dumping. There is absolutely no scientific evidence that folks who experience dumping are any more or less successful than those who don't. Dumping has nothing to do with success.

Your goal is physical change but your challenge is mental discipline. Stay positive. Stay patient. And again, stay focused on following the protocol as closely to the letter as you possibly can. Success starts with realistic expectations. Focus all of your energy on these things. Irrational fear and "self testing" is not realistic, it's not sustainable and it's most certainly not healthy. The only thing standing between you and success is you.

Now, right this moment, realize and accept the fact that your body is going to find its own way in its own time. There are going to be times when you lose weight quickly. Times when you lose slowly. And YES, there will be times when you don't lose at all (stalls). You KNOW it's coming. You KNOW it's perfectly normal. You KNOW that you cannot change the reality. Trying to do so is a waste of time. Panicking when what you KNOW is coming eventually comes, is irrational and pointless.

Do not wait too long to seek professional help with your fears. You've come a very long way already. The finish line is in sight. There's no shame in seeking help from highly skilled, highly educated professionals who help folks conquer similar challenges every single day. Take responsibility for your own success. In the words of Winston Churchill, "It is of no use saying we are doing the best we can. Success means doing what is necessary".

You're gonna love the new you!![/quote']

Dave, u committed on one of my post, and u r such a great encourager. And this post has even helped me. I wish more could read it. Ty

[staceyd 25]

OK - major reality check. If you follow the protocol as closely to the letter as you possibly can' date=' you will lose weight. Period. Science and the laws of the universe cannot be denied. An awful lot of folks who have an awful lot of education have done and continue to do an awful lot of research and an awful lot of testing and have proven the success of RnY beyond any shadow of a doubt. RnY has been around for more than 30 years. There is absolutely no doubt that it is the single most effective treatment known to medical science for obesity, type2 diabetes, and more than 30 comorbidities associated with obesity. No doubt.

Stop wasting your energy on Reese's testing. Forget about testing dumping. Some very successful RnY patients n e v e r experience dumping. There is a very long list of benefits from RnY and not a single one of them is attributed to dumping. There is absolutely no scientific evidence that folks who experience dumping are any more or less successful than those who don't. Dumping has nothing to do with success.

Your goal is physical change but your challenge is mental discipline. Stay positive. Stay patient. And again, stay focused on following the protocol as closely to the letter as you possibly can. Success starts with realistic expectations. Focus all of your energy on these things. Irrational fear and "self testing" is not realistic, it's not sustainable and it's most certainly not healthy. The only thing standing between you and success is you.

Now, right this moment, realize and accept the fact that your body is going to find its own way in its own time. There are going to be times when you lose weight quickly. Times when you lose slowly. And YES, there will be times when you don't lose at all (stalls). You KNOW it's coming. You KNOW it's perfectly normal. You KNOW that you cannot change the reality. Trying to do so is a waste of time. Panicking when what you KNOW is coming eventually comes, is irrational and pointless.

Do not wait too long to seek professional help with your fears. You've come a very long way already. The finish line is in sight. There's no shame in seeking help from highly skilled, highly educated professionals who help folks conquer similar challenges every single day. Take responsibility for your own success. In the words of Winston Churchill, "It is of no use saying we are doing the best we can. Success means doing what is necessary".

You're gonna love the new you!![/quote']

Dave thank you! This is going on my wall so I can read it and remind myself of where I am! Thank you again!