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I am considering gastric bypass. One concern is that I'm very likely to overeat when the wrong foods are in the house. Have regained 90 pounds lost through diet since my remarriage a few years ago. My husband is.supportive, naturally slim, but loves to have goodies and starches available. How do some of you.manage to eat so differently without frustration, conflict, or failure to lose and maintain that loss? This scares me...meals have been my responsibility since he works full time. Thanks for any advice on this!

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Well this is my personal experience with preparing meals. My husband is skinny as well and if he doesn't eat at least 3k+ cal/day he will actually lose weight without even exercising. So his meals are heavy Protein, carbs, fats etc. I am able to taste the food while cooking but most of the time will spit it out and honestly I'm physically unable to eat what I cook for him because I will get sick so it's not really a big deal for me. And if I am able to eat what I cook, it's such a minimal amount compared to what I used to be able to eat.

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I too am the full time cook in the house since my husband works long hours.

Honestly, I have absolutely no problems. Just as your husbands, mine is the skinny one too. I cook regular meals but include more Protein based ingredients. We both eat the same home cooked meals, the only difference is that, I eat much less while he eats a regular portion.

Man hates fast food and sweets, so I have it pretty easy with him.

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Thanks for your responses, ladies. Sounds like you are working it out and that gives me hope.

I guess my hope is that gbp will get me to a place where food is just less of an issue...I won't wake up and go to sleep with food on my mind...won't be ruled by my appetite...won't feel like I need to eat what's on TV...

Does the routine of fluids, Protein, and supplements ever become automatic and easy, or is it always on your mind? Sure appreciate your insights!

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I guess my hope is that gbp will get me to a place where food is just less of an issue...I won't wake up and go to sleep with food on my mind...won't be ruled by my appetite...won't feel like I need to eat what's on TV...!

Speaking from personal experience so far, food is on the bottom of my list --- this coming from a person who lived for food and by the fridge/pantry.

I no longer have that never ending hunger sensation and the need to always have food by my side while watching TV or surfing the net.

Thanks to this wonderful gift, food is no longer my enemy.

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After surgery you don't even want to look at food... even the smell made me sick !!! Of course that changes along with your tastes, the things I use to love I now hate and cooking a high calorie, high fat meals for other people does not even bother me, I don't even taste. The surgery is a BIG help in curving your appetite !!!!

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