decisions, decisions

[sageandcoyesmommy 28]

My mandatory pre-op education class is on Tuesday from 8:45-1:15. If I don't go, my surgery will be postponed a month or more. Tuesday also happens to be my miracle baby's(leukemia survivor) first day of preschool from 9am-12pm. I am so sad and depressed about missing this huge milestone! What would you do? I'm contemplating calling her in sick on Tuesday lol

[dottednails 122]

Oh man that is a hard one. A month is short period of time and flys by. The start of pre school only happens once. Best in luck in whatever you decide

[WildGrits 101]

I guess it depends. A year from now which would you have rather done?

[terry1118 1,274]

That's a tough decision...

[sageandcoyesmommy 28]

I guess it depends. A year from now which would you have rather done?

I don't know! I'm really leaning towards keeping her home that first day lol

[Jeepchick42 193]

Oh man that is a hard one. A month is short period of time and flys by. The start of pre school only happens once. Best in luck in whatever you decide <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' />

I agree. And I bet she's so excited!! Let her enjoy it. A month is a drop in the bucket in the long run.

[lisalisalisa 54]

I'd keep her home that day or get someone else to take her. Yes, the start of pre school is an event, my son hated it so it was a bad event lol. But isn't it more important that you get healthy? Keep her home one day and you can stick to both appts! I'm quite sure her education wont be stunted for life over one day

[bebeandkoko 34]

This is a hard one for sure! I think as long as you know for sure you can do the next class & still have the surgery at a later date, you should choose to be there with your daughter on her first day. Like somebody said, her starting school is a once in a lifetime event. And even though it isn't anything major academically, it is a big deal emotionally, as I'm sure you know(: On the first day, I'm sure they will have lots of fun first day activities/bonding moments that she should get a chance to experience.

But with that being said, I think everybody would understand if you made the decision to keep her home and get started on your journey to health, so that you'll be able to see all her other firsts in life! Good luck & let us know what you decide!

[Ammariehs mommy 150]

I think I would keep her home. It's just pre k she can miss a day. That way you can take her and walk her to her class. She will remember that. My foster daughter did. She remembered I cried when she got on the bus. Lol I know I'm super soft but I've had her since she was born she's five now.

Go to the class! It's important that you loose the weight for her!! One day of school won't hurt her.

[SueC1 27]

My mandatory pre-op education class is on Tuesday from 8:45-1:15. If I don't go' date=' my surgery will be postponed a month or more. Tuesday also happens to be my miracle baby's(leukemia survivor) first day of preschool from 9am-12pm. I am so sad and depressed about missing this huge milestone! What would you do? I'm contemplating calling her in sick on Tuesday lol[/quote']

I'm having the same issues. My surgery is Sept 3rd which happens to be the first day of school. My son is going into kindergarten and riding a bus. I'm so torn by this. I feel like I'm abandoning him on a special day. My mom will be taking him to the bus, but it tears my heart apart knowing I will miss him on his first few days. I was not fortunate to get my surgery date earlier. If you could reschedule, your date I would. I'm more upset about missing him then I am nervous about the surgery. Good luck with whatever decision you make.

[lisalisalisa 54]

Kindergarten is a harder one Sue. My son doesn't know it but I followed his bus in a friend's car so he wouldn't see me! I video taped him getting off the bus and going into school on his first day of school. Perhaps you can have someone tape something like that for you?

[SueC1 27]

So I had an emotional breakdown about this tonight. I was so upset that I couldn't find the right outfit for him to wear in first day of kindergarten that I just started crying my eyes out about not being here for him and not having the perfect outfit. I was a mess. This all came about after my 11 year told me she didn't want me to have the surgery because she was afraid I would die. I've been so strong through this whole process and I just let the tears flow. As I go to sleep tonight I pray to the good Lord that he watch over me and let me make it through this surgery. I can't leave my children. I'm not ready for that. Okay, enough if that before I start crying again. I've got to leave for the hospital in 5 1/2,hours.

[bebeandkoko 34]

So I had an emotional breakdown about this tonight. I was so upset that I couldn't find the right outfit for him to wear in first day of kindergarten that I just started crying my eyes out about not being here for him and not having the perfect outfit. I was a mess. This all came about after my 11 year told me she didn't want me to have the surgery because she was afraid I would die. I've been so strong through this whole process and I just let the tears flow. As I go to sleep tonight I pray to the good Lord that he watch over me and let me make it through this surgery. I can't leave my children. I'm not ready for that. Okay' date=' enough if that before I start crying again. I've got to leave for the hospital in 5 1/2,hours.[/quote']

I'll say a prayer for you tonight. I know the Lord will have his hands on you in the operating room keeping you safe, as well as guiding the surgeons hands to complete another successful surgery. You sound like a wonderful mother who loves her children enough to regain your health for them!

I promise your son will have a wonderful first day and will never hold it against his mama that you weren't there. As for as your daughter, I was just a couple years older than her when my mom had her rny & I was so angry with her for what I thought was her being "selfish" to go ahead with such a major surgery. I said the same thing as your daughter and was so upset I don't even remember the day of her surgery because I wanted nothing to do with her. Here it is years later, my mom is the healthiest she's been in her adult life and I am so incredibly grateful that she went through with surgery. Just like your daughter, I did not understand that she was doing it for me and my brother so that we would get to have our mother around with out letting this horrible disease that is obesity take her from us prematurely. She may be mad/scared now, but I KNOW she will come around just like I did and be sooooo grateful for what you are doing today!

I wish you the best and can't wait to see your future posts about how happy you and your children are with your new beginning!(:

[SueC1 27]

I'll say a prayer for you tonight. I know the Lord will have his hands on you in the operating room keeping you safe' date=' as well as guiding the surgeons hands to complete another successful surgery. You sound like a wonderful mother who loves her children enough to regain your health for them!

I promise your son will have a wonderful first day and will never hold it against his mama that you weren't there. As for as your daughter, I was just a couple years older than her when my mom had her rny & I was so angry with her for what I thought was her being "selfish" to go ahead with such a major surgery. I said the same thing as your daughter and was so upset I don't even remember the day of her surgery because I wanted nothing to do with her. Here it is years later, my mom is the healthiest she's been in her adult life and I am so incredibly grateful that she went through with surgery. Just like your daughter, I did not understand that she was doing it for me and my brother so that we would get to have our mother around with out letting this horrible disease that is obesity take her from us prematurely. She may be mad/scared now, but I KNOW she will come around just like I did and be sooooo grateful for what you are doing today!

I wish you the best and can't wait to see your future posts about how happy you and your children are with your new beginning!(:[/quote']

Thank you for your thoughful post. It us reassuring to know that other people understand and care. I do love my children with all my heart. I gave my kids lots of extra hugs and kisses last night! Im on my way to the hospital now. TTYL.

[Mary23 17]

My mandatory pre-op education class is on Tuesday from 8:45-1:15. If I don't go' date=' my surgery will be postponed a month or more. Tuesday also happens to be my miracle baby's(leukemia survivor) first day of preschool from 9am-12pm. I am so sad and depressed about missing this huge milestone! What would you do? I'm contemplating calling her in sick on Tuesday lol[/quote']

I it was kindergarten I would say don't miss it but pre k I would just skip the first day