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My name is Becca. I'm 41 and 281 pounds. I've had moderate success with Weight Watchers and exercise, but the weight always comes back. I'm now "pre" everything - pre-diabetic, pre-hypertensive. It's time for me to take this seriously. I've completed all of the requirements and been cleared by my surgeon. The paperwork was submitted to the insurance company on Monday and they're confident it will be approved. All good, right?

Now I'm second guessing everything! I keep feeling guilty that I should be able to do this "on my own" without surgery. Just had a friend start Ideal Protein and lose 10.5 pounds and 4 inches in one week. You get the picture.

I have a ridiculous amount of support with my decision, but I can't shake the anxious feeling.

I live in Washington, DC, but I'm interested in connecting with anyone who had these same feelings, but followed through with the surgery and can't imagine life without it (even if there were some complications).

Look forward to hearing from people and extend my gratitude in advance!

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Hi becca! My name is Candace and as of saturday I'm 1 month out from surgery. I had all of the same doubts and concerns. Truth be told had they not given me the "I don't care meds" when they did I would have backed out completely. I was so scared! But my procedure went fine. I came out of it all completely at my self and in little to no pain. When there was pain it just tons of soreness. Was is it worth it? Absolutely! I'm down almost 30lbs. I was abt 273 pre op and now I'm in the 240s. However it has been hard and it is a lifestyle change. Everyday I learn something new abt my body. I have really good days and I have really bad days. On those bad days I fully rely on my support system. She gets me through a lot of days. Please contact me if you have any questions or if u need a little therapy, I would be more than happy to help.

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Don't feel guilty. RNY surgery is simply a tool that will help you in your goal to get fit. The percentage of obesity is high. And the percentage of people who can successfully keep the weight off once they loose it without the help of surgery is around 5%. This is about your health and life expectancy. And what you are about to do takes courage. Thats something to be proud of. I have my surgery coming up on september 25th, and its scary the closer i get, but i have courage, and i'm worth it! And so are you!

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