breaking the cycle...

[brknhrtd8911 29]

Does have a family history of obesity.... And if so do.you feel that you are THE ONE that can finally break the vicious cycle??? My dad was a very large persson at one time... He came from a family of 11 kids, all over 6 ft and and at one point when they were older, 300+ lbs... Boys AND girls... His parents were but very large as well... my dad always had health problems... Some attributed to his weight... Some were just genetic... His highest weight was just under 500 and was told by the drs that he had 2 choices... 1. Lose weight or 2. Plan his funeral because he wasnt going to be around very long.... He did lose a lot of weight but not before there were reprocusions... my dad had to have a trach put in so he could breath due to due fact that being so heavy literally crushed his wind pipe... and lived with for 25yrs... He was never able have it removed because of the irriversable damage his weight caused... He passed away 2 yrs ago this month at the age of 81... even with his long list of health problems he was able to concur the odds that he had against him... He had a happy life... Difficult but happy... About 6 months ago i noticed that i was becoming him... In a sense... In a wheelchair, struggling with health issues, depending on others to take care of me... I cant do it to my husband and daughter... Even though I NO regrets being there for my dad and taking care of his for 25 yrs, i would do it again in a second given the chance but we had a special bond... And i dont feel that same bond with my daughter and i need to be able to take care of myself... That is just one if meny reasons why this surgery is ao important to me why it HAS to be done and I HAVE to succeed... I need to break that cycle and show my daughter, who also struggles with her weight that it can be done.... so sorry for the novel... I didnt intend for it to go on forever:'(

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[shawna29 60]

I'm so sorry to hear about your dad.

I have other obese family members, but most of them have the attitude that big is beautiful. Now don't get me wrong, millions of women are plus size and gorgeous, but the ones in my family are plus size and unhealthy (including myself) . Surprisingly they are the ones that are the biggest critics of me having this surgery. Not all of them, of course, but enough.

Anyway I want to be the first one in my family to have an active life and exercise regularly. I want to run, jump, swim, even skip if the mood strikes me! No one in my family is athletic, so I want to be the first. I now I will struggle with spending time with them without it centering around food, but I love them all regardless.

SD:8/21/13

[Ammariehs mommy 150]

I'm sorry to hear about your Dad! My whole family is over weight but I am the biggest. I weigh 454 now. I started at 484. I am still pre op. My mom has a lot of health issues due to her weight. She weighs about 360. She has diabetes, high blood pressure, back and knee problems. She is in denial. She's addicted to food and nothing can stop her from eating. At family get togethers she sneaks in the kitchen and eats. I have been on a diet for the last 6 weeks and I have been trying to get her to do things with me but she won't. I feel like I can not do anything to help her. I try to talk to her every time I see her but it goes in one ear and out the other. I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place with her. Maybe when I get my surgery she will see how well I am doing and she will start to help her self. At least that's what I'm hoping for!!