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I know alot of people post this concern, I have seen it too....Please dont tell me to stay off the scale, I have been through this nightmare already.....I was a sleeve to bypass revision on august 1st, but when i got my sleeve I was on the other site titled "sleeve talk"...and soon after my sleeve, I saw that my weight loss was lagging behind everyone who was sleeved at the same time I was..then, I just stopped losing..actually as soon as the post op diet ended...I have lived on salad and grilled chicken for 3 yrs, and the wt would not come off..I knew I could eat alot, it wasnt my choices in food, it was the volume...Now I feel like I am living that nightmare all over again...I lost 11 lbs the first 11 days, then i stopped and now i've gained 2 lbs...I am so scared...the doctor told me i had a stretched fundus, upper part of the stomach, that he could not shave off due to scar tissue after the band and it had stretched to allow alot of food...he said he had learned how to get behind the scar tissue now and was going to fix my sleeve.....I agreed, but 1 week later i called and told him I wanted bypass, i didnt want to take a chance that it wouldn't work and i would fail again....So, I had the GBS, then one week post op he told me he left the excess out pouch and just lopped off the bottom of my stomach....NOOOOOO.......what????....I dont know why I didnt say anything that day...last Friday as a matter of fact...but i didn't and now he is on vacation and I wont see him till sept 10th...Im sure if I do say something he will only blow it off anyway...but now I feel like I am living my last nightmare of surgery without the benefit of wt loss....I am walking, eating right, but no wt loss and a 2 lbs gain to boot!! sorry for ranting but I am so depressed right now, I dont even know what to do with myself....I look around and everyone is losing faster and more than me just like the last surgery....I dont even know how to close this rant so I will just say thanks for listening.....

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I think all of us can understand your fear but consider the fact that at three weeks post-op, you really don't have any basis for assuming anything. A minor weight gain following the surgery is quite common and doesn't mean a thing.

So - perhaps the best thing you can do is take a deep breath and really focus on trying to relax and setting your fears aside. Trust the process. Allow your body to find its own way in its own time. Consider focusing all of that energy on continuing to follow the protocol as closely to the letter as you can possibly can. Stay active - even if it's only walking short distances. Drink as much Water as you can. Get as much of your doctor's recommended Protein as you can - Protein is crucial for healing and you're doing a lot of healing right now. And I know you don't want to hear it but ... stay away from the scales for at least a week and two would be even better!

Instead of being a slave to the scales - consider becoming a slave to a food log. Now is the perfect time to start (if you haven't already). I've been logging for almost two years and the single biggest benefit from a long list of benefits is - peace of mind. Regardless of what the scales tell me, if I KNOW (not think, know) that I'm meeting my calorie goals and eating healthy, the rest will take care of itself.

You're gonna love the new you!!

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Thanks DL, you seem so wise and always have the right answers...I really appreciate your feedback... :)

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