tlynn4love 48 Posted July 31, 2013 I just finished serving my family thr dinner I made them. Baked chicken thighs and mashed potatoes with a green salad on the side. I served them all, grabbed my crystal light lemonade and sat down with them. Kinda sad because I wish I could eat but, happy I'm losing weight so I can deal with it. Then my hubby says. 'You should leave the table I dnt feel comfortable eating infront of you' I say I'm ok I can handle it. But he insist he can't eat that way. So here I am in my room waiting on my family to b done eating. Feeling left out. I'm exactly one week post op today..... oh well. It will get better. Just tired of liquids blah! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SoccerMomma73 1,867 Posted July 31, 2013 I woulda told my husband to kiss my butt! That was very insensitive!!!! 3 ArmyOfMe, kraney and DLCoggin reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tlynn4love 48 Posted July 31, 2013 I woulda told my husband to kiss my butt! That was very insensitive!!!! Yeah he meant well because he knows I want food but, the way it came out made me feel isolated Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SoccerMomma73 1,867 Posted July 31, 2013 How about 'thank you for worrying about me but being isolated and not feeling like part of the family makes me feel worse'. I guess that's better than kiss my butt 2 w106fox and tlynn4love reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
tlynn4love 48 Posted August 1, 2013 How about 'thank you for worrying about me but being isolated and not feeling like part of the family makes me feel worse'. I guess that's better than kiss my butt Lol. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mamafine23 101 Posted August 1, 2013 My husband never said that to me but I did feel left out for awhile and just didn't join then for dinner till I was able to start eating 1 tlynn4love reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ElleG 394 Posted August 1, 2013 It will get better, u will b eating food soon! Hang in there 1 tlynn4love reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
music1618 879 Posted August 1, 2013 My husband said I was starting to stare at him like our dog Molly does when he wants what is on his plate. It is only temporary and it does get better. 1 tlynn4love reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
annav562 40 Posted August 1, 2013 Don't feel bad....my mom was here helping me recover and she went all out cooking tacos...chicken..enchiladas. .I mean you name it she made it..and I was fine...didn't bother me one bit. ..I wasn't hungry..but then when it was my hubby's turn to get surgery and by this time I was on soft foods. .he couldn't deal...everyone reacts and handles it differently.. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ArmyOfMe 82 Posted August 1, 2013 That was rotten of him. Next time, maybe you can heat up some broth in a bowl or some creamy Soup and enjoy dinner with your family. I sure hope he's not going to chase you out of the dinner table like that ever again. Teach him respect --- you have earned it! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SarahBeth 11 Posted August 1, 2013 My family was the same way...they felt really guilty eating in front of me. At first it was really hard for me to watch them enjoy foods I knew I would probably never eat again, but 1 month post-op and I don't care at all about what others are eating! I just told my mom that food wasn't important to me anymore and I didn't mind being around food I couldn't have. She is still leery to eat around me, but I just continue to reinforce the idea that I'm OK with it. Your husband means well!! 1 tlynn4love reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
countrygirl 84 Posted August 1, 2013 Yeah he meant well because he knows I want food but' date=' the way it came out made me feel isolated [/quote'] Tell him he needs to be supportive even if you sit @dinner table Share this post Link to post Share on other sites