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So glad u had such a wonderful time. Sounds amazing.

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Ok we'll everything went great but I can't sleep now I thought maybe sex would make me tired but I'm wide awake and wore him out after the 5 time boy it's like my grand kids said about me beating them on Wi Dance granny still has it in her and going strong but I'm letting him sleep for a little while at least he worked all day so he can be ready for the morning or maybe 3-4 in the morning if I can't go to sleep its like I have all this energy and can't slake so I'm telling all my secrets and watching him sleep

Did it live up everything in your mind?

Did you heart flutter!!

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Yes it's was wonderful now he asked why I waited so long that now I won't keep my hands of him or him me but he's glad I waited till I was ready and that says lots for his charter and respect for me and we are making up for all the time I've waited

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Ok so I'm back from my weekend and it was incredible we had so much fun together not to mention the sex was incredible used muscles hadn't used for a while I thought I was doing a good job at my exercising all my muscle but I guess physical contact is going to be in my new exercise goal I like this new one a lot. I honestly think I'm in lots of trouble with this guy and they way he makes me feel but I'm being careful to still take it slow not to confuse myself my shrink say you are very venerable after surgery cause your hormones and emotions are very high I've explained all this to him and told him that is why I've waited and being so careful with expressing my feelings but I can tell all of you I think I could really fall deeply in love with this guy. We even went to my support group together last night yes we did leave the hotel I had told him and he said he thought it was important to go so we did and went to dinner also and just went back to the hotel and honestly just went to sleep just holding each other

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Mrs. Give it to be anytime has die :( I hate sex. I feel old wrinkly saggy & flat ass. If he gets it once a month or twice he is lucky.

What Hot Miami, I don't believe it! How you doing? when is you surgery? How are things with the hubby? Peace chica

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Ok so I'm back from my weekend and it was incredible we had so much fun together not to mention the sex was incredible used muscles hadn't used for a while I thought I was doing a good job at my exercising all my muscle but I guess physical contact is going to be in my new exercise goal I like this new one a lot. I honestly think I'm in lots of trouble with this guy and they way he makes me feel but I'm being careful to still take it slow not to confuse myself my shrink say you are very venerable after surgery cause your hormones and emotions are very high I've explained all this to him and told him that is why I've waited and being so careful with expressing my feelings but I can tell all of you I think I could really fall deeply in love with this guy. We even went to my support group together last night yes we did leave the hotel I had told him and he said he thought it was important to go so we did and went to dinner also and just went back to the hotel and honestly just went to sleep just holding each other

Congrats! Very happy for you and he sounds like a keeper. Patient, kind and thoughtful. Him wanting to be there and go to a meeting with you is great.

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Ok we'll everything went great but I can't sleep now I thought maybe sex would make me tired but I'm wide awake and wore him out after the 5 time boy it's like my grand kids said about me beating them on Wi Dance granny still has it in her and going strong but I'm letting him sleep for a little while at least he worked all day so he can be ready for the morning or maybe 3-4 in the morning if I can't go to sleep its like I have all this energy and can't slake so I'm telling all my secrets and watching him sleep

So happy for you!!!

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My boyfriend wants to try new positions...namely me on top. I'm really scared and I'm not sure why. I know before surgery any time he asked I couldn't do it and would sometimes end up in tears because of it. Nothing to do wit him' date=' just my insecurity because I was so big. Now that I've lost 100 pounds he is asking again. You would think I'd be all about trying it, but I get the same insecurity and tears as before. I feel like a damn fool. Logically I know I weigh 100 lbs less than before and I weigh less than him now, so I don't know why the insecurity over this hasn't gone away.[/quote']

I had to reply to this! So I've been with husband for 9 years married for 4.5 years and I had NEVER ever ever been on top no matter how many times he's asked. I couldn't bring myself to do it and my self worth was down my self pity sky high. I didn't feel sexy and the thought of saying no to him made me an emotional mess. Insecure to say the least. Even after over 100lbs gone I still think of myself first and want to say no.... But we have tried so much more stuff and I ask at least a million times if I'm squishing him LOL not sexy, I know! I feel gross and I have to turn my inner voice off. My husband enjoys it and I hate to say I love it.

Reading your post, my heart knows what your talking about and how you feel. You are not alone. But think of your man :) he wants you. I still struggle so it doesn't just go away. But if you ever wanna talk message me. We can rant for days! Lol

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I had to reply to this! So I've been with husband for 9 years married for 4.5 years and I had NEVER ever ever been on top no matter how many times he's asked. I couldn't bring myself to do it and my self worth was down my self pity sky high. I didn't feel sexy and the thought of saying no to him made me an emotional mess. Insecure to say the least. Even after over 100lbs gone I still think of myself first and want to say no.... But we have tried so much more stuff and I ask at least a million times if I'm squishing him LOL not sexy' date=' I know! I feel gross and I have to turn my inner voice off. My husband enjoys it and I hate to say I love it.

Reading your post, my heart knows what your talking about and how you feel. You are not alone. But think of your man :) he wants you. I still struggle so it doesn't just go away. But if you ever wanna talk message me. We can rant for days! Lol[/quote']

Thank you! I feel so horrible when he asks and I can't bring myself to do it. I want to try it soon, trying very hard to work up to it :)

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Try it your really going to like it especially if your flexible I'm not top heavy except my batwings and its great

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Ok so today I'm very excited and nervous I've been dating this guy 4 months and the next 2 days we are going away together it's been 6 years since I've been with anyone and he has been very understanding with me about SEX will he isn't expecting that it will happen this weekend we've sleep together but haven't went all the way he doesn't know I'm planing to do it this weekend but feel like its the first time he is very hot very sexual and exciting he told me he was willing to wait till I'm ready I've been ready just nervous and I feel very good in our relationship I figured if he's waited this long took I know took many cold showers that he is true and trusting. I've went and bought some sexy stuff red lacy bra and panties and a sexy night some massage oil candles etc so I've really thought this out and really want to be with him and I know it will be wonderful!!!!!!! Just wish I could have a glass of wine to settle my nerves

So any tips or suggestions for my first time and by the way I'm 57 and only been with 2 people my hole life

Congratulations on being Virgin for so long. 2 men is nada I know a friend that is a teenager age 14 had about 20 men or more already.

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Just remember to pace yourself - and warm up your muscles. Don't want to pull anything or throw out your back trying to do the Italian chandelier move! dde09

I'm having so much fun reading. Italian chandelier

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That's bad but these kids don't care you the go with there dong groups and more and really don't now what there getting there selfs into

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