What do you say?

[saramichelle 127]

We went out to eat with family and they asked me if I was sick...the waiter commented on how I eat like a bird. Asked me three times if everything was alright. I just tell them I'm on a medically supervised diet....extended family doesn't know.

That is a smart way to put it. I e had the same thing happen twice with wAitresses. They ask me if I would like something else or if there is something wrong with the food. Kind of nice to be told you eat like a bird:)

[saramichelle 127]

I just say I'm on a 'Dr supervised diet'. Who is going to argue with a doctor?

Essentially it's true' date=' too. We have had surgery (no one needs to know if you don't want to share), and our team has given us guidelines and restrictions that we need to follow while we are healing, and to avoid getting sick. It IS medically supervised and we are taught how to get all the things we need that are vital to our recovery and good health. It's not a fad diet, a starvation diet, or an eating disorder. :-)[/quote']

Very true. I wouldn't be lying!

[saramichelle 127]

Same thing with drinks. At first I'd tell them I didn't want anything to drink with my meal. Then one time I had the waitress ask me 5 times during a meal if I was sure I didn't want anything to drink. Now I just get a Water and it either sits there untouched or my boyfriend drinks it.

Yes very smart. Those waitresses can be persistent but I know they're just trying to help but it does put me at a loss as to what to say

[saramichelle 127]

I thought for a long time about whether or not I was going to tell people and if not' date=' I finally decided to play my hand face up. I told people and now I don't have to worry about a cover story. Everyone is great about making sure restaurants we pick have options for me. Waiters and waitresses still think I'm nut when I don't order beverages but that doesn't bother me.[/quote']

Just wondering if you had negative reactions? One of my friends who was like the first person I told reacted very negatively and does not even talk to me anymore. I think this why perhaps I'm scared to tell anyone. It makes me sad that she would choose not to talk to me anymore but I think it made her feel reAlly insecure. I'd guess I'd just rather not got through that again!

[saramichelle 127]

Thank you to everyone who replied to this thread. I've been completely busy with holiday festivities so I was unable to respond for a couple of days! I truly feel a little lost when I can't check in with the forum in a couple of days! All of you guys are great and have given me some great ideas on how to handle this situation next time

[saramichelle 127]

Telling them you've taken garage of you health and you are on a strict diet' date=' you appreciate the invite but are trying to avoid temptation.[/quote']

Oh I like this one a lot!

[saramichelle 127]

I pass on lunch a lot too. When I go I eat Soup. I just say I have cut out a lot of things (fried' date=' sugar, bread etc) so I only eat certain things. Don't feel uncomfortable u can't control what people think of u, when u start losing they may think its because of a eating disorder focus on you, pack your lunch and forget about the rest. Best Wishes![/quote']

Thanks so much. Great idea:)

[saramichelle 127]

Back in the late 80's when HIV/AIDs became the disease of the century and everyone was scared to even have any type of contact with a person with the diagnosis' date=' if you lost a lot of weight because you were dieting, the first thing that came to mind with many people was you were HIV/AIDs positive, and there went your friends. You could tell them that you were dieting but you could tell they really didn't believe you. So no matter what you tell everyone, they will think what they want to believe. Very sad, because when you need the support, it isn't there.[/quote']

Oh wow this is crazy! I'm so glad I don't have to worry about that. How awful

[saramichelle 127]

I've found myself at luncheons serving normal (to them) plate of what I can eat and talking.... Bite.... Talk.... Fork down..... They finish first and we all get up together. When I'm throwing away all the food minus what I ate I say I ate a big breakfast' date=' you didn't see me snacking before the luncheon?!, or my new fav it just wasn't good food, I'm saving my appetite for my dinner date or I have another meeting after this!

I've become quit the fibber!!!<img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/sad.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' /> I don't think the entire world should know even though I've told a lot of people. After my white lies people don't ask. Works for me! Good luck![/quote']

Oh I constantly feel I'm telling little white lies. I even have to lie to my kids because I don't want them to tell their daddy- my ex!

[saramichelle 127]

Agree pack your own lunch or say you had a big Breakfast. I just found out from my stupid hubby that everyone keeps asking him if I'm sick. Wth they sure don't ask me that. Ppl need to mind there own buisness.

How do you keep from letting this get to you. I feel I am constantly worried about what others are thinking!