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I am almost 7 months out and only down 60 pounds, I am so frustrated and starting to really regret getting this surgery. I have had a severe stall. I lost 17 pounds in 3 months. That is pathetic. I have upped exercise, Protein. I take Iron, daily Bariatric Fusion, b-12 and Vitamin D. I am drinking tons of Water, have cut out soda and nothing. I was told to expect rapid weight loss in first 6 months. 60 pounds in 7 months is not rapid. what can I do?

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I think that's great! Don't be so hard on yourself the weight will come off. Sounds like your doing all the right things... It will happen!

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I have only lost 25 lbs in 5 months! Very disappointed!

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I lost around 70 pounds in 7 months and considered it rapid weight loss. 60 pounds sounds great to me. It sounds like impressive progress. I have experienced many stalls - some lasted 4-5 weeks. I now lose about 1-2 pounds per month. I prefer to lose weight slowly at this point.

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I am almost 7 months out and only down 60 pounds' date=' I am so frustrated and starting to really regret getting this surgery. I have had a severe stall. I lost 17 pounds in 3 months. That is pathetic. I have upped exercise, Protein. I take Iron, daily bariatric fusion, b-12 and Vitamin d. I am drinking tons of Water, have cut out soda and nothing. I was told to expect rapid weight loss in first 6 months. 60 pounds in 7 months is not rapid. what can I do?[/quote']

So, would you have lost 60 pounds in 7 months without surgery? You're averaging 2 pounds a week give or take. No, it may not be as fast as others but it's 60 pounds!!!! You've lost a 7 year old!!!! I know you wish it was faster but embrace your success. Celebrate your victories! I was told to expect 2-4 pounds a week...who loses 2 and who loses 4 and why I don't know, but keep on keeping on! 2 pounds a week is over 100 pounds a year!!!!

HW 312, pre-op (RNY) 255, current weight 207.4

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The weight will come off.

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I agree with SoccerMomma73, embrace your success. Don't compare yourself to anyone else. I would suggest you journal your intake for two weeks and share that with your nut to get insight on where you can make improvements.

Don't let the negative self talk win. You are doing great! It would've taken you longer than 7 months to lose 60 lbs before surgery.

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You are doing well but I would talk to your Dr and your Nutritionist. Do you journal?

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70 lbs in 7 months- i would take that! Thats really good weightloss! And really the healthier way is to lose at that pace. Better for your heart - and I bet your hair didnt fall out at all. Hang in there, you are doing great! I am jealous! (i'm preop) I love to hear all your progress. Soon that should be me!

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logically I know that it is better to lose at a slower pace, but I still have so much to lose, 70 pounds, that I terrified that I will not get to my goal. I was told that the first 6 months are when all the weight loss occurs. After that you are on your own. I don't want to fail this procedure and have everything that I have sacrificed be for nothing.

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I guess I just feel alone because whenever I bring this up to my husband, he says that I never should have had the surgery in the first place and that I need to learn to deal with the consequences of my dumb ass choices. I feel so alone and so much like a failure. Like there is something wrong with me that has caused my surgery to fail.

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I guess I just feel alone because whenever I bring this up to my husband' date=' he says that I never should have had the surgery in the first place and that I need to learn to deal with the consequences of my dumb ass choices. I feel so alone and so much like a failure. Like there is something wrong with me that has caused my surgery to fail.[/quote']

Men (spouse) barely understand us. My hubby says hey you wanted to be skinny having a flat ass is part if being skinny like nope! I don't accept that. He better shut up with that crap! I'm a size 00 I'm not looking sick or anything. He ask you wanna lose more weight. I'm 110 I don't wanna be a walking stick.

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