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I am six days out and struggling today. I think my husband is being insensitive which isn't like him at all. He got mad when he came home from work today because he left the mail on the kitchen counter and o sorted it and shredded the junk mail. Apparently there was a coupon he wanted that I shredded and he started yelling. I have been crying ever since. This is so hard and I think he thinks it is as easy as getting to be home from work. Now I can't stop crying and I feel sick to ny stomach. It is time for me to eat but I don't want to leave my room. I just wish he understood how hard this is and that I need his support now more than last week in the hospital. The normal me would have put him in his place but I just don't have it in ne right now.

Ironically I would normally want food in this situation but now I just want to cry.

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As much as its a change for us, it's a change for them...your hormones are all over the place after surgery...it doesn't hurt to cry, let it out and I hope that he can see how ridiculous it was to yell at you over a coupon ...hang in there and take care of yourself

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I am six days out and struggling today. I think my husband is being insensitive which isn't like him at all. He got mad when he came home from work today because he left the mail on the kitchen counter and o sorted it and shredded the junk mail. Apparently there was a coupon he wanted that I shredded and he started yelling. I have been crying ever since. This is so hard and I think he thinks it is as easy as getting to be home from work. Now I can't stop crying and I feel sick to ny stomach. It is time for me to eat but I don't want to leave my room. I just wish he understood how hard this is and that I need his support now more than last week in the hospital. The normal me would have put him in his place but I just don't have it in ne right now.

Ironically I would normally want food in this situation but now I just want to cry.

Oh no..I'm so sorry honey. It's a weird side effect of the surgery. It's like all the stored estrogen we have in our fat cells start throwing us all off. I think almost all of us go thru this in some form. I became a basket case and would have to just go cry it out. Just remember this too shall pass and you aren't alone..I myself went through it and would feel depressed and like nobody knew what I felt like. My husband thought I was nuts. Hang in there. Try to get ya some dinner and maybe things will feel a but better. I'm here if u need me.

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Hormones for sure!!!! Go a head cry it out and eat. It's time. Hopefully he will see that even though he was outta line you are still doing what you need to do, and maybe a sorry is in order.

It's okay to cry. This change is HARD!!!

Surgery date 7/25/12

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Oh do I know what you are talking about! I am 4 weeks out and an emotional mess! I love my hubby, but can't stand him right now. He tries to be understanding, but he is driving me crazy! I try to remind myself that 90% of it is my crazy hormones. This is normal and we will get thru it! Take care of yourself.

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Sorry to hear this. Try to talk to your hubby and let him know how ur feeling and what u need. (HUGS)

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You all are right it is hormones. I am just used to going ninety to nothing and this anesthesia post surgery blues is something I wasn't completely prepared for. Im very sensitive and feel like I should feel further along already. I just took a shower and went out to the living room and he acted like nothing even happened. I can act too. Lol

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You all are right it is hormones. I am just used to going ninety to nothing and this anesthesia post surgery blues is something I wasn't completely prepared for. Im very sensitive and feel like I should feel further along already. I just took a shower and went out to the living room and he acted like nothing even happened. I can act too. Lol

It gets easier. I had weeks like this then suddenly I started feeling better. This is such a life changer for u and those around u. It does get to be hard but u are worth it :)

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Over a coupon. He needs to quit. Jerk! Just like my hubby.

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