female only Divorce Help

[Baker_gurl 119]

Hi everybody,

I hate to say this, because I feel like such a statistic, but I am going to have to divorce my husband. We've been married

for almost 7 years. We've had our struggles, but it has turned into an abusive relationship that is escalating in violence. I have decided to leave. We don't have any kids. I honestly have tried to save this relationship with everything I could, but now it's time to go. The only problem is, I have no idea about the divorce process. I live in TN. Has anyone been through a divorce with no kids? We don't have a house or anything major to fight over besides maybe appliances. Is it possible to do it yourself without an attorney? Also, I'm worried that he won't sign the papers just to be spiteful. Also, does anyone have an idea how long the process is? I'm hoping to get this over with as soon as possible so I can just start over and heal.

Thank you for you advice in advance!,

Emily

[padlrd 183]

You can go online and find basic forms since there no children or property it doesn't mater if he signs them as long as he served with divorce papers generally he has 30 days to contest and answer then generally it takes 30-45 days after to be final you can usually find an attorney to do papers when there's no children or property for under $500at the very most that includes all filling fees. Sorry but if he's violent it's better to get out before you get hurt

[Baker_gurl 119]

Oh thank you Padlrd!!! I am clueless about a divorce and I just want this mess to be over as quickly as possible!! I was really worried that he would have to sign them. He is very jealous and has convinced himself that I was cheating. I figured he would not sign the papers just to be hateful. I am in full agreement about leaving. He has hurt me for the last time!! I was a very good and faithful wife and he just missed out big time!

[ElleG 394]

Praying for you!!! I'm so happy you got out, not all women are that strong or lucky!

[tinkycheeks 31]

I don't have any experience or advice, but I did want to let you know you're in my thoughts and prayers. I'm so proud of you for making a hard decision and doing what's best for you. If you ever need a friend, I'm always available!!!!

[Baker_gurl 119]

Thank you both ladies!! I am going to sign the lease for a new rental today. I'm planning on moving out Saturday. Please pray that it goes safely. I'm not sure how he'll react. I don't know if I should call the police to be there? He never leaves the house anymore without me so I can't do it when he's gone because he's always there, ugh!! Thank you so much! I covet your prayers. This is not anything I thought I'd have to do, but I love myself too much now to stay with such an abusive man.

[Crkrjax76 76]

If you believe he might try to hurt you, then yes, ask the police to escort you there!! If he doesn't fight the divorce, then it should be fairly easy. But if he decides to fight, then you would be better to get an attorney. But since there are no children and no property to fight over, there's not much I dont' think he can do. My ex husband and I used the same attorney! But he didn't fight me. I wish you the best of luck!!

[JustJenn 542]

If you fear for your safety please call the police. Let them know ahead of time of the situation and they got you covered.

Praying for a smooth exit!

Xx

Surgery date 7/25/12

[mizzlaw 130]

I commend you for being so strong and following your heart...

[TinyMamiOf3kids 1,280]

I'm sorry this marriage couldn't be save. I wish you all the luck in the world. I have my share if issues it's on a 50/50 right now. My focus is on my plastic surgery since I put everyone 1st then if after next year total body change(for me not him) I see nada change. I'm gonna save enough to get my own place & if I have to file for spouse abuse so be it cuz someone saying your f. Incg around on a daily basic it's getting on my damn nerves.

[pookybear 284]

I'm in MA but when I went through my divorce we had no property or children. I filed and the fee was $230 but I filed a hardship waiver and didn't have to pay anything. Mailed in the papers and got notified of a court date. We went and were granted the divorce, and it was final 90 days later. Altogether from when I filed until it was final, was about 6 months. Couldn't hurt to get some advice from a lawyer if you think he may give you some trouble.

[Sparklette 381]

I know that where I live, you go to the court and it's $40 for the papers, you both sign it and turn it back to the court.

[TinyMamiOf3kids 1,280]

Looks like from 2013-2017 divorce will increase. I want to stay married forever on papers. In reality I want to be separated forever. I'm just tired of all the bull shit.

[JustJenn 542]

Looks like from 2013-2017 divorce will increase. I want to stay married forever on papers. In reality I want to be separated forever. I'm just tired of all the bull shit.

Marriage is hard Mami! Be strong

Xx

Surgery date 7/25/12

[TinyMamiOf3kids 1,280]

Marriage is hard Mami! Be strong

Xx

Surgery date 7/25/12

Damn right it is.