khalilmom90 12 Posted May 10, 2013 I need advice ladies I hope you all can help I'm 22 my fiancée 41 and my problem is I've never had an orgasm. He is very experienced and loves to try new things YES sex is amazing but I just can't cum at all now he can but not me I don't want him to think he not pleasing me because not only am i not having an orgams but my sex drive is decreasing so i know he is think I'm messing with someone else or he can't satisfy me but both are wrong I've read try to please myself first but idk Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
dottednails 122 Posted May 11, 2013 Deffently take some time to figure out how you work please your self first you will be so glad you did. And you will be able to help him make it happen for you once you learn what feels best. Good luck ! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TinyMamiOf3kids 1,280 Posted May 11, 2013 If you never had an orgasm have you try oral sex not you to him but him to you? Have you ever had or try a vibrator? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
khalilmom90 12 Posted May 11, 2013 If you never had an orgasm have you try oral sex not you to him but him to you? Have you ever had or try a vibrator? No I haven't tried vibrators and yes he doesn't but no luck Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
khalilmom90 12 Posted May 11, 2013 Deffently take some time to figure out how you work please your self first you will be so glad you did. And you will be able to help him make it happen for you once you learn what feels best. Good luck ! Thanks Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shershrinking 53 Posted July 15, 2013 I didnt have a real orgasm until i was in my 30's! Too nervous? I dont know why. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jeepchick42 193 Posted July 15, 2013 No I haven't tried vibrators and yes he doesn't but no luck They're a girls best friend! Lol. I've only had a hand full with a guy at 31 but I always do with a vibrator. Try making it part of your time together. Alot of men become defensive at the thought of them but ask him if he'd be open to try it. Worth a shot. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SoccerMomma73 1,867 Posted July 15, 2013 They're a girls best friend! Lol. I've only had a hand full with a guy at 31 but I always do with a vibrator. Try making it part of your time together. Alot of men become defensive at the thought of them but ask him if he'd be open to try it. Worth a shot. Once he sees how you respond to it he will likely be all for it! At least that's been my experience . Good luck!!!!! HW 312, pre-op (RNY) 255, current weight 204.6 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites