Mom Using Scare Tactics to Stop Surgery!

[crmills74 11]

I have a co-worker doing the same thing. Thank God she only works there 3 days a week' date=' because I don't think I could take it any more than that! Always coming in with another story or off-putting question or remark that's meant to scare me out of surgery. No way lady, not gonna scare me into settling for lifelong obesity. Thank you very much!![/quote']

Thanks for sharing.

I especially love the last line, "no way lady.......obesity."

[elli'smommy 160]

Lol! I def don't want my mother-in-law to know. She's worse than my mom because she is an a passive-aggressive airhead. She never really talks to me, just kinda interrogates me about her son. Anyway, my in laws are very opinionated too. At least I know my mom is coming from love and concern.

Any chance you have a sister or a best friend who would be willing to be your support person pre and postOp? I know it's not the same as a mom but if shes stressing you out and bringing you down then that's not good for you emotionally, physically or psychologically. My bariatric center offers support groups three times a month. Some are specific for pre or post Op. Maybe you could pair up with someone there to be each other's support net? Hope you find peace and someone you can trust soon. peace

[crmills74 11]

Any chance you have a sister or a best friend who would be willing to be your support person pre and postOp? I know it's not the same as a mom but if shes stressing you out and bringing you down then that's not good for you emotionally' date=' physically or psychologically. My bariatric center offers support groups three times a month. Some are specific for pre or post Op. Maybe you could pair up with someone there to be each other's support net? Hope you find peace and someone you can trust soon. peace[/quote']

I do have a friend that will help me and my 17 year old son actually DOES NOT want my mom coming for the surgery. He says he can cover down since he's been around while I had my c-sec and hysterectomy. However, I will not put that burden on him solely. My husband instructed both our boys ( ages 6 and 17) to "take care of mommy" while he's gone. I guess they're taking the orders seriously. Lol. Anyway, the idea about pairing up with someone from a support group is a great idea. Thanks so much for your concern and encouragement.

CJ

[karlam29 221]

Lol! I def don't want my mother-in-law to know. She's worse than my mom because she is an a passive-aggressive airhead. She never really talks to me' date=' just kinda interrogates me about her son. Anyway, my in laws are very opinionated too. At least I know my mom is coming from love and concern.[/quote']

Totally understand! I dont get too much support from my parents im their only child im 29 still their baby! So i guess its understandable at some extent my hubby is the only one that understand and even tough he is scared shitless for me and worried hes been suportive and doesnt let me feel lonely going through this the only thing though i told him DO NOT TELL your mother!!! She is nosey as hell!! Aghh! Mother in laws! Gotta hate oops! Sorry! Love them! Lol ;0)

[crmills74 11]

Totally understand! I dont get too much support from my parents im their only child im 29 still their baby! So i guess its understandable at some extent my hubby is the only one that understand and even tough he is scared shitless for me and worried hes been suportive and doesnt let me feel lonely going through this the only thing though i told him DO NOT TELL your mother!!! She is nosey as hell!! Aghh! Mother in laws! Gotta hate oops! Sorry! Love them! Lol ;0)

Lol. I feel you. My hubby tell his mother things that aren't necessarily private, but that I dont want him to share with anyone. He gets frustrated and says how is he supposed to know what to tell and what not to tell. I just tell him if it had to do with me, say nothing; just talk about himself or the kids. Mine is nosey too and has no boundaries on the questions she asks. Aghh!! Lol