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I know in my heart I am doing the right thing. I want to be healthy and rid of my health problems that came along with being morbidly obese. Then why doing I keep second guessing my decision. I am still along ways from my surgery date. I have to do the six month diet. I feel like I am going to screw everything up. Is normal to feel this way? I very scared of the pain after the surgery. Which I find odd cause I have had 5 open back surgeries( very painful). Any advice would be helpful. Thanks.

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I know in my heart I am doing the right thing. I want to be healthy and rid of my health problems that came along with being morbidly obese. Then why doing I keep second guessing my decision. I am still along ways from my surgery date. I have to do the six month diet. I feel like I am going to screw everything up. Is normal to feel this way? I very scared of the pain after the surgery. Which I find odd cause I have had 5 open back surgeries( very painful). Any advice would be helpful. Thanks.

What you are feeling is 100% normal. I would call you a fool if you were not scared or second guessing. You are making one of the biggest decisions of your life.

You have time. Make sure that through the next 6 months you know what you are doing. Research the hell out of everything. You will be fine

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This is a major life change. It's totally normal to feel unsure or scared. I was fine *mine moved really quick. I started researching in like february and had surgery in April 1. All I had to do was sleep study and blood test before so* But the last 2 weeks before surgery....I kept wavering and was one second from calling it off.

Then there comes that moment...when you're at the hospital and they haven't taken you back yet and you know that this is it. This is the moment. Either you put your life and future in this persons hand and start a new chapter...or you yell hell NO and run. So, research. Ask questions. Find a surgeon that you feel comfortable with handing over your life...and do what feels right. :)

My surgeon intimidates me. I get nervous when he comes in the room.....but do I believe the man is skilled and the best possible surgeon that I could find? Oh yeah. I do. I have no doubt that he's one of the top in his field and that my success is his success. So I did it. And I'm happy. :)

Today was the first time in FIVE years that I've been under 300. I'm 299!

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Thank you for your replies. I feel so much better knowing I have a place to turn to when I have question or just need some support.

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