Ethics question about Size and presense

[Cherry 71]

I am curious of your experience in this.... and it pertains to women, though men are welcome to respond

For those who have lost weight and are BELOW a size 12 for example:

What is your expereince when you walk into a room, or an event, or somewhere with a crowd?

Do you think people noticed you MORE when you were larger, or do you think people notice you more NOW that you are smaller and perhaps fit into the more normal size range?

Now I know this is about confidence for some..... and for some it could be about <physical> beauty.

Some might feel they stand out MORE as a smaller person and they like that, and some might feel they blend in more and they like that.

I am having this emotional fear that when I drop this weight, I am going to get "lost in the crowd". I wonder if my size has added "presence" to me that my personality wouldn't ordinarily convey.....

On the contrast, I wonder if I will look sooooo fabulous that people will notice me everywhere. LOL

So what has your experience been???

[kristy3k 1,133]

I don't know if its my confidence or what but I find people ... Strangers... Accept me more as a smaller person then as a larger person. People converse more... Or maybe it's me becoming more outgoing. It's a tough question to answer. Regardless I feel better... Happier which probably makes me more approachable.

[Kellyk2511 282]

I was just discussing this with my mom today. I'm 2 months post op and in a size 16 down from a 22-24. When I was bigger I felt I stood out more for being fat. I still have a long way to go until my goal, but I already feel more comfortable in public and feel like I blend in with the "normal" people and feel so much better about that. I feel like I don't stand out for my size anymore and it's such a relief.

[abbybeep 53]

I was a 22/24 and now I'm an 8... When I'm.

that knew me when I was my biggest

[abbybeep 53]

Ugh! Silly phone!

When I'm with people who knew me when I was my biggest, I feel like I stand out, because they are complimenting me. Otherwise, I feel like I fit in way better than before, and it feels good.

[cookier224 238]

Girl, its probably just my ego..but now that I'm in size 8/6, I get doors opened for me. I get men wanting me to talk to me while driving. I've been told by woman that they wish they were my size. I can't believe someone wants to be my size. LOL. At work i have always been taken seiously but it seems to be more intense now. I feel really pretty! by the way i'm 50!

[cookier224 238]

Girl, its probably just my ego..but now that I'm in size 8/6, I get doors opened for me. I get men wanting me to talk to me while driving. I've been told by woman that they wish they were my size. I can't believe someone wants to be my size. LOL. At work i have always been taken seiously but it seems to be more intense now. I feel really pretty! by the way i'm 50!

[Cherry 71]

Girl, its probably just my ego..but now that I'm in size 8/6, I get doors opened for me. I get men wanting me to talk to me while driving. I've been told by woman that they wish they were my size. I can't believe someone wants to be my size. LOL. At work i have always been taken seiously but it seems to be more intense now. I feel really pretty! by the way i'm 50!

At the risk of sounding vain, I have that now at my weight And I don't want to lose it when I am 70 lbs less. I am pre-op w/ a large weight loss sz 18 today. I will actually be 199 lbs by my surgery on Weds. I AM a firery redhead. LOL. I have become rather subdued lately due to my weight steadily rising. My fear is that I will lose my presence when I am smaller. :ph34r:

[kiwiladydee 402]

I think when u got it, u just got it!! No matter the size.

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[pointer 92]

I am curious of your experience in this.... and it pertains to women' date=' though men are welcome to respond

For those who have lost weight and are BELOW a size 12 for example:

What is your expereince when you walk into a room, or an event, or somewhere with a crowd?

Do you think people noticed you MORE when you were larger, or do you think people notice you more NOW that you are smaller and perhaps fit into the more normal size range?

Now I know this is about confidence for some..... and for some it could be about <physical> beauty.

Some might feel they stand out MORE as a smaller person and they like that, and some might feel they blend in more and they like that.

I am having this emotional fear that when I drop this weight, I am going to get "lost in the crowd". I wonder if my size has added "presence" to me that my personality wouldn't ordinarily convey.....

On the contrast, I wonder if I will look sooooo fabulous that people will notice me everywhere. LOL

So what has your experience been???[/quote']

Its all about confidence also I've been smaller most of my life between an 8 and 10 and at my largest a 24. I'm very confident and sexy smaller or larger and either way I have a great shape and men notice that. I knew men who didn't necessarily didn't like bigger women and thought I was sexy as hell. So carry urself with confidence. And u won't get lost in the room if u look and feel good. Presence is everything. When u loose weight don't get super small either l ole a 4 and under. Everyone is not meant to be that size. Hope this helps.

[pointer 92]

I think when u got it' date=' u just got it!! No matter the size.

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I agree

[pointer 92]

Ugh! Silly phone!

When I'm with people who knew me when I was my biggest' date=' I feel like I stand out, because they are complimenting me. Otherwise, I feel like I fit in way better than before, and it feels good.[/quote']

I guess its about personality. I stand out the same either way

[pointer 92]

I don't know if its my confidence or what but I find people ... Strangers... Accept me more as a smaller person then as a larger person. People converse more... Or maybe it's me becoming more outgoing. It's a tough question to answer. Regardless I feel better... Happier which probably makes me more approachable.

Its not bc ur size its bc ur confidence has changed.

[Cherry 71]

I am actually scared that I will not be able to stop the weight loss. I do not want to go below a sz 6/7. There are people on here who had goals of sz 8/10 and are now sz 2.

Thanks for the responses and kind words!!!

[TinyMamiOf3kids 1,280]

I think when u got it' date=' u just got it!! No matter the size.

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You know I seen some sexy juicy big woman. They dress nice & walk like they all that. Why not. Being large isn't for everyone. Like you said if you got it you got it. I love being tiny. I was able to stuck my hand I between the tub & sink to take something that been there for years seriously no lie. It's finally clean & scrub down.