April 2013 Post-Op Group

[deaddemmama 474]

Darn maybe the neurologist can sqyeeze you in when you explain you were in hospital..Did they say you should heal on your own? Yikes quitting is so hard I quit almost 2 weeks before and I did have one when me and my hubby went to a concert a few weeks ago but it doesn't interest me on a regular basis thank god! Hope you are feeling better tomorrow

SW 363lbs Surg Date 4/16/2013 CW 286lbs

I should heal on my own...if I continue to not smoke and take the carafate. Luckily I have a couple days had start on quitting.....

[Dorian 683]

Ok wide awake can't sleep all I keep thinking about is that the past month my weight loss has been sooooo slow and what if I don't lose all my weight. ..I don't know why I get so upset over it when sometimes I feel like "wow I've lost so much weight in 5 months" and now I think of how much more I need to lose and think I'm not gonna get there...I'm sorry I know I've said this all before it just really gets to me..am I the only one worried they won't reach their goal? ?

SW 363lbs Surg Date 4/16/2013 CW 286lbs

I think the same thing at times! I even msgd kristy3k about it! I wanted to know how you know you are done losing. We are only 5 months out and the loss continues for around 18 months from what ive read. Not sure if this is accurate but it is what I read. We WILL stall and it can be for a month or more even. This is when we should change up our plan. Eat more Protein, exercise more or do different routine and drink more h2o.

I was at 235 this am which is 68 down from surgery on 4-22. I was hoping for 100 in 6 months at first but now am happy with whatever. I am trying to not get discouraged at my slow loss because I know I cant exercise like others. I just take what comes! I love that I can tell a difference in my clothes and I feel better. That is what matters.

Keep your head up. You have done AWESOME!! You are no where near done yet!!

[Dorian 683]

Missed my neurology appt...shoot.needed two transfusions. Had a serious bleed. My blood count went down to 6.5... Normal is 14! My bp is 83/38.....really not good. After the transfusions it went up to 90/57' date=' blood count was almost 9. And they let me go home. This is all from sneaking maybe two cigarettes a week...I thought you had to have H pylori to have ulcers BUT NO! I'm done smoking for good.. I had quit before surgery and started 3 1/12 months after...big mistake![/quote']

You are lucky my friend! Glad they fixed you up and let you go. It sucks that you missed your appointment. Reschedule right away! Leave the cigarettes alone!! I was a smoker too but really only when I drank. I have had two puffs since surgery and both times I gagged and wondered why I did! I am done for good now and dont miss it. I hope you continue to feel better and get better. You have definitely had more than your share of crap my friend! Hugs to you! ♥♥

[meldanmary 0]

I had surgery on 9/11 and im trying to drink more fluids but I could only get up to 22 oz a day cant tolerate more than that. I eat about 6 popsicles a day and 4 jellos any sugestions I had to go to the er because of dehydration. My pain is very strong especially in my right side at night. Havent had a BM in 4 days. And I feel hungry all the time. Any suggestions. Thank you. :-)

[iamworthit 208]

Missed my neurology appt...shoot.needed two transfusions. Had a serious bleed. My blood count went down to 6.5... Normal is 14! My bp is 83/38.....really not good. After the transfusions it went up to 90/57' date=' blood count was almost 9. And they let me go home. This is all from sneaking maybe two cigarettes a week...I thought you had to have H pylori to have ulcers BUT NO! I'm done smoking for good.. I had quit before surgery and started 3 1/12 months after...big mistake![/quote']

So they think the ulcer was from smoking? Did you have any symptoms before the bleeding?

[iamworthit 208]

Missed my neurology appt...shoot.needed two transfusions. Had a serious bleed. My blood count went down to 6.5... Normal is 14! My bp is 83/38.....really not good. After the transfusions it went up to 90/57' date=' blood count was almost 9. And they let me go home. This is all from sneaking maybe two cigarettes a week...I thought you had to have H pylori to have ulcers BUT NO! I'm done smoking for good.. I had quit before surgery and started 3 1/12 months after...big mistake![/quote']

So they think the ulcer was from smoking? Did you have any symptoms before the bleeding?

[Obeasta 92]

Oh man mama i am so sorry to hear that. It's terrible.

Girls, to be honest i am very worried now about this smoking thing. I smoke. A lot. I stopped for 3 months presurgery and started again about one month post op.

I know it is bad and i understand it is especially bad after this op and why.but here's the thing. Smoking is all i got.

My life is so terribly terribly shit at work that i feel i am at the brink of a disastrous breakdown. I am doing my all to balance my sanity. Ofcourse you all understand about the stressors and anxiety we have about all kinds of things - including:

• missing comfort from food

• coping without its "help"

• will i succeed

• getting foodstuffs right and ready

• doing research in eating plans and stuff (i am so frustrated cause all the info i get - 65% we dont have in south africa and i just cant seem to manage to get all my Protein ;-(((

• trying to amp myself to go gymming and doing exercise. I hate exercise! And i am telling myself i like it and want to do it because it is needed and part of this process - but deep down i still hate it and i want to shout it out so that i can come clean to myself

• i have a lot of debt because of all the costs involved and i cannot seem te get out of it plus my parents are struggling a lot financially and i am so worried about them, they are also quite sickly and i am so afraid one of them might die, i will totally be f*cked of something happened to either if them and i dont know how to make it all better their whole situation and where their desperation is taking them and it breaks me to see them struggling like this they are the best parents in the world and dont deserve this life

• my mental state is up and down a lot and sometimes it gets really bad and i dont know what to do about it - i'm off my meds since surgery and although we have a good bariatric team here i feel the psych part is totally lacking, i saw the psychiatrist but it was a 30 minute or so talk and he was actually yawning (excusing himself for it, but still keeping on) and when i took a huge knock in hospital after my op because the nurses never gave me a substitution for my meds on time (after i had to harass them for it, like it wasnt even important on their notes or whatever) and obviously i was withdrawing he was just never there to check up on me - although his office is around the corner from the hospital - i mean how come?? Shouldnt that be a concern? i mean just one quick check in? especially seeing that i am a "difficult patient" making scenes in the hospital? I was flipping out and telling them something was wrong but noooo. And no use in going to my doctor (the surgeon) as he is just not one of those people that you can go to with your gripes. He is an excellent surgeon and did an excellent job, but there's not that feeling of connectedness to talk about anything that i am feeling, and my fears and problems i am facing, so that is out. There is just no psych professionals here available to deal with bariatric patients and i feel it is so so so important!

•bloody hairloss and acne

• stressing about my partner and what i am putting him through. He is sticking it out and supports me all the way, but i know he has his own little issues and am i in someway, through all this crap of mine, making him be worse off??

• and the office politics where i am working oh my goodness that is the worst of all of all! I cannot TAKE it anymore, i'm nit even going to begin to talk about it because it upsets me extremely and it is just unbearable and there is actually nowhere to turn

• and what if i get a bloody ulcer from all this smoking????

Cause smoking is all i have now.

My few minutes to escape at the office, my moments of silence when i drag myself away from the kitchen and bad food, my comfort when the stress just gets too much. It is all i have now to cope - and gasp horror what will happen if i take that away from myself??

So it is not just to quiet for me. What if taking it away is the straw that breaks this camel's back?? I am scared.

[ajustice 484]

Thought I'd update y'all. Last night was pretty awful. After a scare with them thinking I had a ectopic preg they were then able to rule that out. They didn't find a baby or heartbeat. They did see a gestational sac. At this point it's either my body ovulated later than my lmp would indicate or it's a blighted ovum where the pregnancy progressed but the baby didn't. Go back mon hoping for some sign Of hope. Pain is a bit better since the treatment for dehydration. Prayers please. If I lose thus baby will be my 4th and I just don't think I will be able to come back from that.

[countrygirl 84]

Thought I'd update y'all. Last night was pretty awful. After a scare with them thinking I had a ectopic preg they were then able to rule that out. They didn't find a baby or heartbeat. They did see a gestational sac. At this point it's either my body ovulated later than my lmp would indicate or it's a blighted ovum where the pregnancy progressed but the baby didn't. Go back mon hoping for some sign Of hope. Pain is a bit better since the treatment for dehydration. Prayers please. If I lose thus baby will be my 4th and I just don't think I will be able to come back from that.

Praying f or you &baby

[iamworthit 208]

Thought I'd update y'all. Last night was pretty awful. After a scare with them thinking I had a ectopic preg they were then able to rule that out. They didn't find a baby or heartbeat. They did see a gestational sac. At this point it's either my body ovulated later than my lmp would indicate or it's a blighted ovum where the pregnancy progressed but the baby didn't. Go back mon hoping for some sign Of hope. Pain is a bit better since the treatment for dehydration. Prayers please. If I lose thus baby will be my 4th and I just don't think I will be able to come back from that.

Oh sweetie I am sending prayers up for you. Stay strong and keep your faith. I want a baby more than anything and have never been pregnant. I can only imagine. ((((Hugs))))

[Dorian 683]

Thought I'd update y'all. Last night was pretty awful. After a scare with them thinking I had a ectopic preg they were then able to rule that out. They didn't find a baby or heartbeat. They did see a gestational sac. At this point it's either my body ovulated later than my lmp would indicate or it's a blighted ovum where the pregnancy progressed but the baby didn't. Go back mon hoping for some sign Of hope. Pain is a bit better since the treatment for dehydration. Prayers please. If I lose thus baby will be my 4th and I just don't think I will be able to come back from that.

As I said before, I am thinking of you and will praying for you come Monday! I am here for you in any way that I may be able to help. Be strong my friend! We are here for you and love you! ♥♥

[ajustice 484]

Thanks..I love you guys!

[pebulz 135]

Thought I'd update y'all. Last night was pretty awful. After a scare with them thinking I had a ectopic preg they were then able to rule that out. They didn't find a baby or heartbeat. They did see a gestational sac. At this point it's either my body ovulated later than my lmp would indicate or it's a blighted ovum where the pregnancy progressed but the baby didn't. Go back mon hoping for some sign Of hope. Pain is a bit better since the treatment for dehydration. Prayers please. If I lose thus baby will be my 4th and I just don't think I will be able to come back from that.

you are in my prayers I couldn't imagine what you are going through... {{{hugs}}}

SW 363lbs Surg Date 4/16/2013 CW 286lbs

[Dorian 683]

Oh man mama i am so sorry to hear that. It's terrible.

Girls' date=' to be honest i am very worried now about this smoking thing. I smoke. A lot. I stopped for 3 months presurgery and started again about one month post op.

I know it is bad and i understand it is especially bad after this op and why.but here's the thing. Smoking is all i got.

My life is so terribly terribly shit at work that i feel i am at the brink of a disastrous breakdown. I am doing my all to balance my sanity. Ofcourse you all understand about the stressors and anxiety we have about all kinds of things - including:

• missing comfort from food

• coping without its "help"

• will i succeed

• getting foodstuffs right and ready

• doing research in eating plans and stuff (i am so frustrated cause all the info i get - 65% we dont have in south africa and i just cant seem to manage to get all my Protein ;-(((

• trying to amp myself to go gymming and doing exercise. I hate exercise! And i am telling myself i like it and want to do it because it is needed and part of this process - but deep down i still hate it and i want to shout it out so that i can come clean to myself

• i have a lot of debt because of all the costs involved and i cannot seem te get out of it plus my parents are struggling a lot financially and i am so worried about them, they are also quite sickly and i am so afraid one of them might die, i will totally be f*cked of something happened to either if them and i dont know how to make it all better their whole situation and where their desperation is taking them and it breaks me to see them struggling like this they are the best parents in the world and dont deserve this life

• my mental state is up and down a lot and sometimes it gets really bad and i dont know what to do about it - i'm off my meds since surgery and although we have a good bariatric team here i feel the psych part is totally lacking, i saw the psychiatrist but it was a 30 minute or so talk and he was actually yawning (excusing himself for it, but still keeping on) and when i took a huge knock in hospital after my op because the nurses never gave me a substitution for my meds on time (after i had to harass them for it, like it wasnt even important on their notes or whatever) and obviously i was withdrawing he was just never there to check up on me - although his office is around the corner from the hospital - i mean how come?? Shouldnt that be a concern? i mean just one quick check in? especially seeing that i am a "difficult patient" making scenes in the hospital? I was flipping out and telling them something was wrong but noooo. And no use in going to my doctor (the surgeon) as he is just not one of those people that you can go to with your gripes. He is an excellent surgeon and did an excellent job, but there's not that feeling of connectedness to talk about anything that i am feeling, and my fears and problems i am facing, so that is out. There is just no psych professionals here available to deal with bariatric patients and i feel it is so so so important!

•bloody hairloss and acne

• stressing about my partner and what i am putting him through. He is sticking it out and supports me all the way, but i know he has his own little issues and am i in someway, through all this crap of mine, making him be worse off??

• and the office politics where i am working oh my goodness that is the worst of all of all! I cannot TAKE it anymore, i'm nit even going to begin to talk about it because it upsets me extremely and it is just unbearable and there is actually nowhere to turn

• and what if i get a bloody ulcer from all this smoking????

Cause smoking is all i have now.

My few minutes to escape at the office, my moments of silence when i drag myself away from the kitchen and bad food, my comfort when the stress just gets too much. It is all i have now to cope - and gasp horror what will happen if i take that away from myself??

So it is not just to quiet for me. What if taking it away is the straw that breaks this camel's back?? I am scared.[/quote']

Sorry you are having a stressful time. I was a smoker too but gave it up (except for 2 puffs) months ago. I really enjoyed it and it kept me from eating! When I started to diet I smoked ALOT more so I wouldnt eat as much. Now I cant even stand the smell. Have you tried the patch or chantix to quit? It sounds like you are having extra stress cuz you know you shouldn't be smoking along with all of the other stress you already have!

I am lucky because I have the added support of my grown children! If I started again they would kill me! I wish you the best. You CAN quit. I did so you can! Stay strong. I have faith in you!! ♥♥

[Dorian 683]

Oh man mama i am so sorry to hear that. It's terrible.

Girls' date=' to be honest i am very worried now about this smoking thing. I smoke. A lot. I stopped for 3 months presurgery and started again about one month post op.

I know it is bad and i understand it is especially bad after this op and why.but here's the thing. Smoking is all i got.

My life is so terribly terribly shit at work that i feel i am at the brink of a disastrous breakdown. I am doing my all to balance my sanity. Ofcourse you all understand about the stressors and anxiety we have about all kinds of things - including:

• missing comfort from food

• coping without its "help"

• will i succeed

• getting foodstuffs right and ready

• doing research in eating plans and stuff (i am so frustrated cause all the info i get - 65% we dont have in south africa and i just cant seem to manage to get all my Protein ;-(((

• trying to amp myself to go gymming and doing exercise. I hate exercise! And i am telling myself i like it and want to do it because it is needed and part of this process - but deep down i still hate it and i want to shout it out so that i can come clean to myself

• i have a lot of debt because of all the costs involved and i cannot seem te get out of it plus my parents are struggling a lot financially and i am so worried about them, they are also quite sickly and i am so afraid one of them might die, i will totally be f*cked of something happened to either if them and i dont know how to make it all better their whole situation and where their desperation is taking them and it breaks me to see them struggling like this they are the best parents in the world and dont deserve this life

• my mental state is up and down a lot and sometimes it gets really bad and i dont know what to do about it - i'm off my meds since surgery and although we have a good bariatric team here i feel the psych part is totally lacking, i saw the psychiatrist but it was a 30 minute or so talk and he was actually yawning (excusing himself for it, but still keeping on) and when i took a huge knock in hospital after my op because the nurses never gave me a substitution for my meds on time (after i had to harass them for it, like it wasnt even important on their notes or whatever) and obviously i was withdrawing he was just never there to check up on me - although his office is around the corner from the hospital - i mean how come?? Shouldnt that be a concern? i mean just one quick check in? especially seeing that i am a "difficult patient" making scenes in the hospital? I was flipping out and telling them something was wrong but noooo. And no use in going to my doctor (the surgeon) as he is just not one of those people that you can go to with your gripes. He is an excellent surgeon and did an excellent job, but there's not that feeling of connectedness to talk about anything that i am feeling, and my fears and problems i am facing, so that is out. There is just no psych professionals here available to deal with bariatric patients and i feel it is so so so important!

•bloody hairloss and acne

• stressing about my partner and what i am putting him through. He is sticking it out and supports me all the way, but i know he has his own little issues and am i in someway, through all this crap of mine, making him be worse off??

• and the office politics where i am working oh my goodness that is the worst of all of all! I cannot TAKE it anymore, i'm nit even going to begin to talk about it because it upsets me extremely and it is just unbearable and there is actually nowhere to turn

• and what if i get a bloody ulcer from all this smoking????

Cause smoking is all i have now.

My few minutes to escape at the office, my moments of silence when i drag myself away from the kitchen and bad food, my comfort when the stress just gets too much. It is all i have now to cope - and gasp horror what will happen if i take that away from myself??

So it is not just to quiet for me. What if taking it away is the straw that breaks this camel's back?? I am scared.[/quote']

Sorry you are having a stressful time. I was a smoker too but gave it up (except for 2 puffs) months ago. I really enjoyed it and it kept me from eating! When I started to diet I smoked ALOT more so I wouldnt eat as much. Now I cant even stand the smell. Have you tried the patch or chantix to quit? It sounds like you are having extra stress cuz you know you shouldn't be smoking along with all of the other stress you already have!

I am lucky because I have the added support of my grown children! If I started again they would kill me! I wish you the best. You CAN quit. I did so you can! Stay strong. I have faith in you!! ♥♥