Support from bf or husband problems?

[KerryBeary85 2]

Does anyone else find it hard to be in a relationship w someone who hasn't had the gastric bypass? My bf of 3 months just doesn't get me & that I can't eat as much as him & that I need support to not backslide into eating junky foods & gaining weight. He also doesn't work out w me & I wish he did. I've talked to him bout it but it doesn't help.

[slowtogo 301]

How about telling us something about yourself, kerry. Of us have had boyfriend or husband problems. Welcome, btw.

[KerryBeary85 2]

Well what would u like to know? What problems have I had & how did u get throw them?

[LeticiaHuggins 177]

What I'm going throw is a little different. Before my surgery I pretty much trained my honey and kids on eating healthy and working out. It's still a little hard for me cause I'm 6 days post and they had a cheat day yesterday and ate Chinese food. I Damn near died... But I have to realize this Roux-En-Y is my journey not theirs.

The problem I had have with my honey is he didn't want me to have the surgery. I had already lost 47 lbs on my own (with help of my dietitian), got down to a size 16 and even motivated him to jump on the band wagon. He said it was a dangerous procedure and it just wasn't needed. Personal I think part if it was also because I was abandoning him on our health and fitness routine.

Now after surgery I feel like I can't complain about ANYTHING cause he'll give me this look like see. My tummy was sore but it was because my toddler kicked the hell out if me. My neck part has been dry because of the rapid weight loss and I made a little comment about that and my staples have been causing a little itch. These are all minor minor issues and I feel like he's looking for something... I also notice him peeking when I get dressed because I'm dropping weight and its noticeable.

This our journey. Our spouses have two options. Get on board or get out the way. LOL

~Leticia **SW: 259**PreOp: 216**SURG: 3/21/13 **Discharged @: 221**7 days post op: Down 18 lbs**

[KerryBeary85 2]

Yes ma'am I totally agree. Support us & get on bored or don't let the door hit u where the good lord split u lol. Keep up the good work girl.

[sc_mama4 92]

Well I knew I was filing for divorce after my surgery. However my habitual cheating husband thought I'd stand by forever..he was wrong. Soon after filing I met a man who seemed like prince charming and said all the right things. This is where I got into trouble never hearing ur beautiful etc I latched on to the first guy to say it. Three years later I fled in the middle of the night with my kids and never looked back. He could be cruel to me about my surgery but I'm not going to go into detail.

After leaving I finally had freedom to go to church or even shower past 4pm. My money was mine and I didn't have to acct for every item on a receipt. During this time I told myself I'd never allow a man to dictate my life again. Sitting in church one day I stood crying. I have no family and its just me and my kids. They sang "who am I" and I remember looking up and saying I can't go any further I've lost everything I have its time you intervene. I walked out without that weight on me. The very next day my bestfriend said she wanted to see me happy and was going to pay for my subscription to christianmingle. So she did sat up my profile and that night I sat talking to myself at how pathetic I was to use the net to get a date. Well I ran across a profile and he was a Marine. I was a ex army wife and knew the ropes of military life and the fact he was hella hot in those dress blues ...whew. So I wrote him and he wrote back. We met and went for a walk. During the walk I opened up about my surgeries my health my kids etc. He listened and I felt completely safe and comfortable with him. Well we would go on to do this and facetime for almost two months and then I came home one night to find my apartment had been robbed of what little things I had. I was so mad at God bc here I thought he had helped me with finding a good man and now how could I get robbed I had nothing. I called him crying and said Im determined to do this alone. He told me even the strongest ppl need help that's why God puts ppl in pols lives to help them. That night he said I will be there be ready your coming to live with me. I did and we joke now that our relationship was like an arranged marriage but we have been together a year and we have yet to argue about anything. I never knew what love was til I met him and love isn't screaming fighting hitting or hurting ...I do know that much. I reflect back on those days and know if I can survive that I can weather anything. Austin gave me a family, a bestfriend and most of all my faith in God again. I knew it was right when we went to church and he grabbed my hand and threw it in the air to worship. I finally found peace and even though I lost every thing I owned it was well worth it bc I have gained so much from it. I know I rambled but I wanted u to know u don't have to settle u didn't with your obesity you took a stand so why not take a stand with your happiness and love life?

((Hugs))

[KerryBeary85 2]

Awesome story. Very touching to my heart. I'm so happy u have found what we all long for. Thank u for sharing ur story w me