6 Days until Surgery & Nothing But Negative feedback

[LeticiaHuggins 177]

Hey WLS Fam... I'm new to the forum and loving all the chitty chatty info talk here. I've learned so so much!

So I'm 6 days until surgery. My Dr's office, support groups and friends that have already went through this have been soooo supportive. My family and friends talk so negative about my decision. My mom has been great and my fiance is trying to be as supportive but he's honestly scared for me.

His sister, my aunt and cousin who are RNs are like DO NOT HAVE THIS SURGERY.... too many complications, there is leakage, pneumonia, life long issues.

I 5'4 and started at 259 lbs and during my 7 month journey of jumping through the required loopty-loops I've managed to get down to 216. So now the new talk is... Oh you dont need this surgery you can do it on your own.

Oh Em Gee... Please shut and mind your own business...

I'm on so many different meds

Asthma

High Blood Pressure

Back pain

I'm pre diabetic...

And let's not talk about this CPAP machine my Pulmonary Dr just put me on.. My sex life has taking a serious dive. Looking like Darth Vadar at bed time is not sexy AT ALL. A sexy gown and perfume can't distract from the mask..

OMG... I'm just bothered!

[reason2live 11]

You have to do what works for you. I'm nervous but God will have us covered. I myself is too young to be on 7 different medications. So I chose to do the surgery but I only told my husband, kids, and sister. That's my main support because I didn't want to hear just what you are hearing. But like I said do what works for you, any surgery can have complications. Pray much success for you.

[LeticiaHuggins 177]

Reason2Live... Thanks Girl, I seriously needed to hear that. I told my fiance I wasn't telling anyone else. He's in the medical field... He delivers, repairs and maintain medical equipment and beds. He deals with the RNs at the hospital I'm having surgery and he didn't want me to to there cause everyone he knows will be in my business. I'm ok with "those folks".. they took excellent care of me when I had pneumonia.

You're right tho... I don't need to tell anyone else.

[reason2live 11]

Reason2Live... Thanks Girl' date=' I seriously needed to hear that. I told my fiance I wasn't telling anyone else. He's in the medical field... He delivers, repairs and maintain medical equipment and beds. He deals with the RNs at the hospital I'm having surgery and he didn't want me to to there cause everyone he knows will be in my business. I'm ok with "those folks".. they took excellent care of me when I had pneumonia.

You're right tho... I don't need to tell anyone else.[/quote']

You are welcome. I know how it can be to hear all the negative talk, a person don't need that at the moment, lol. We need all the support you can get because its your choice and they can talk against it all day, they don't have to live with the issues we have.

[Lauren379 3]

I'm so glad to hear that other people are having the same issues as I am. I've jumped through all my hoops and am waiting for my insurance to approve my surgery. I'm 5'4", 230 lbs and at 34 I've had high blood pressure for quite a while. I'm an RN and I actually work in surgery. I have a good close support system with my best friends, fiancé and parents. But, at work I've definitely kept it to myself. I truly don't want to hear everyone else's opinions about what is right for me. How could anyone else possibly know?? My other big concern is the fact that I have two sisters who are overweight and I haven't told them yet.... I truly fear their response to my news... I feel like they will think I am somehow leaving them behind. All I keep reminding myself is that this is MY life and this is what I believe is best for me. It's still gonna be tough though.... I need to tell them soon, surgery could be in next couple weeks... Good luck everyone! Just know you're not going through this alone!!

[mrsb12 73]

Hey WLS Fam... I'm new to the forum and loving all the chitty chatty info talk here. I've learned so so much!

So I'm 6 days until surgery. My Dr's office' date=' support groups and friends that have already went through this have been soooo supportive. My family and friends talk so negative about my decision. My mom has been great and my fiance is trying to be as supportive but he's honestly scared for me.

His sister, my aunt and cousin who are RNs are like DO NOT HAVE THIS SURGERY.... too many complications, there is leakage, pneumonia, life long issues.

I 5'4 and started at 259 lbs and during my 7 month journey of jumping through the required loopty-loops I've managed to get down to 216. So now the new talk is... Oh you dont need this surgery you can do it on your own.

Oh Em Gee... Please shut and mind your own business...

I'm on so many different meds

Asthma

High Blood Pressure

Back pain

I'm pre diabetic...

And let's not talk about this CPAP machine my Pulmonary Dr just put me on.. My sex life has taking a serious dive. Looking like Darth Vadar at bed time is not sexy AT ALL. A sexy gown and perfume can't distract from the mask..

OMG... I'm just bothered![/quote']

Tell them to walk in your shoes and that complication stuff they are talking about according to my surgeon is 1%.... Follow your doctors recommendations and the diet and your Asthma won't bother you as much ....I'm 7 weeks post op I am no longer on cpap machine and I have had asthma since day 1 and it has def improved . If you think your seriously ready for this then tell them either support me positively or keep your mouth shut....it's your health and life on the line , I wish u the best and pray you make the right decision for yourself and not based on their uneducated Bs ..maybe take them with u to an appt so that they can ask the surgeon unanswered questions or to get a bit more facts

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[GaPeach31061 23]

People will ALWAYS have something to say ..You do whats best for YOU ..No one knows how you feel but YOU...Good Luck..

[mizzlaw 130]

Shut all the negativity out of your life ! Be strong! My husband did Not support me and in fact did not even check on me while at the hospital.( im still pissed over that) ..... I am 6 months post op and have lost a lot of weight and finally feel great about myself, if i would have listen to all the haters i would still be fat and depressed!!!! I hope you find the strength in you to tune out all the useless comments! Good luck...