Husband problems

[marjon9 6]

I understand people when they say we have no right to tell Janiee to divorce her husband. But actually, I have more faith in her than that. I have faith that Janiee will make her own decision in this important matter, and that she will not divorce her husband because of what a few people said on an internet forum. Ultimately, I disagree that we should feel out of line for giving Janiee the advice you see here. Janiee has she presented a small amount of information to us an asked for opinions. That is part of her process of collecting information and getting feedback to make her own decision. Based on the information she chose to give us, her husband sounds like quite a loser. I think there is nothing wrong with responding based on that information. And again, I have every expectation that Janiee will make her own decision based on what she actually wants to do, and not based on what a few people said on a forum. I don't think we need to protect Janiee from herself.

[Lap_dancer 8]

just a bit of advice- if its not enrollment time and there has been no life changing events ie divorce, death, birth- under most insurances he cant just take you off.

Here it is!

After dealing with my company insurance for five months now, open enrollment starts in August for us. Once that door is closed, it's CLOSED. He can't do anything until the next open enrollment period.

Regardless of the "other side to the story". Anyone who would threaten you with a means to removing the source for paying for your dream is a bully and control freak. He's manipulating you and yes I will go so far as to say being mentally abusive.

He may feel threatened by the weight you have lost, by the possibility of what you may lose and then you may not be so dependent on him because you may feel more able to do for yourself. Stay strong, stay committed and take it one day at a time.