Maybe not keeping it a secret?

[groovykg 23]

I'm glad to hear this. I think I will keep it quiet for now, and then consider sharing with anyone who inquires afterward, once it's already done. I'm just so skeptical that this won't become a BIG DEAL. My 6 year old was diagnosed with autism last year, and seriously, everyone and their mother has something to say about it, and it's like they expect me to detail every symptom and behavior. These people aren't TRYING to be negative, but when they hear about this diagnosis, after inquiring about one of his quirks, they are incredulous and want to know every detail, and try to explain away all of his behaviors. "What do you mean, 'he does xyz??!! My son does that too and he's FINE!" or "So what if he does xyz! That doesn't mean anything!"

It gets really exhausting and I get pretty pissy even with good friends and end up saying, "I don't need to justify his diagnosis to you." That usually shuts them up, but then everyone is awkward after that. But their doubt about the whole thing feels a little judgmental. I guess that's a better example of my concern, people feeling like I should be justifying my decision, particularly after the fact.

The best part is, I will be going back to work in August (as a teacher) after 5 years of being a SAHM. No one will know me as fat (let's hope all goes well in the first 6 months).

Hey Debbie- your avatar looks familiar. Were you on a SugarBusters forum?

[AliG 17]

Well I posted it on my Face Book wall is tells you where I stand. lol

I have received nothing but support and also in the process I found our other friend had the surgery themselves or are having it. I don't feel like its anything to hid. I am doing something proactive to make myself healthier. I have been extremely sick with breathing problems (tracheomalacia) having been in and out of the hospital and having had surgeries everyone understands it is for my health that I am doing this. First step to living yourself and the new you.

Though I do have to say my daughter who is 17 is scheduled for surgery in July. She isn't telling anyone at school except her best friend. She just wants to lose the weight without a big announcement. I am so excited for her surgery she will get a new healthy body in which to start her young adulthood in.

[krista1020 14]

Disclaimer- although most people around me know that I'm having surgery, if I ever go back to my hometown to visit (high school reunion, etc). I will not be sharing:). They can just think I was one of the lucky ones who aged well

[sassy14 178]

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Love that! I feel the same. I was being very quiet about surgery and know that I cannot tell my parents (they are 85 and just would never understand surgery).

I have told some of my closest friends because I will need their support. Everyone I've told is supportive and encouraging.