breakthrough...

[Debbiebydesign 93]

9 days until surgery

4 days until clear liquid diet starts

Last night, while on the road for a quick visit with my in laws, my usually stoic and calm husband put his hand on my knee, I squeezed his hand and looked at his face. He was crying. I asked what was wrong and he replied, "It's getting close, and I'm scared."

I was so grateful to hear this, because it was the first time HE brought it up for discussion. He's always listened and told me he supports my decision. But this was different and I learned a few things about him.

First, he blames himself for my weight problem, even though I was fat for years before we met. (While he is overweight, he has some phobias related to food, and his diet is similar to a children's menu, and very limited in variety.) I assured him it was not the case and emphasized that I am responsible, and no one else, to get better.

Secondly, He's scared of losing me in surgery, and of losing some of our food related bonding, like Giordano pizza in Chicago, and having me test his homemade Finnish bread.

Third, he wants to support me by changing some of his bad habits related to food. (Any ideas how I could swing that to "finish one home improvement project before starting a new one"? Let me know...lol.)

I needed that talk. It was support from where I needed it the most at the best possible time. For months, my biggest cheerleaders in this were my best friend, and his sister. It's so good to know this wonderful man is on board too. It's really helping me believe I can do this.

[Gurlygirlrcr80 95]

9 days until surgery

4 days until clear liquid diet starts

Last night' date=' while on the road for a quick visit with my in laws, my usually stoic and calm husband put his hand on my knee, I squeezed his hand and looked at his face. He was crying. I asked what was wrong and he replied, "It's getting close, and I'm scared."

I was so grateful to hear this, because it was the first time HE brought it up for discussion. He's always listened and told me he supports my decision. But this was different and I learned a few things about him.

First, he blames himself for my weight problem, even though I was fat for years before we met. (While he is overweight, he has some phobias related to food, and his diet is similar to a children's menu, and very limited in variety.) I assured him it was not the case and emphasized that I am responsible, and no one else, to get better.

Secondly, He's scared of losing me in surgery, and of losing some of our food related bonding, like Giordano pizza in Chicago, and having me test his homemade Finnish bread.< /p>

Third, he wants to support me by changing some of his bad habits related to food. (Any ideas how I could swing that to "finish one home improvement project before starting a new one"? Let me know...lol.)

I needed that talk. It was support from where I needed it the most at the best possible time. For months, my biggest cheerleaders in this were my best friend, and his sister. It's so good to know this wonderful man is on board too. It's really helping me believe I can do this.[/quote']

That's so sweet...I teared up. U have a great man in your life!

[gc> 50]

having a supportive partner through this process is invaluable. couldn't have done it without my love.