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sky    87

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I have not been in a relationship for a few years now and have not been looking for one...well about 1 1/2 month before surgery I met a man online..not a dating site...we began talking thru email everyday...i kept telling myself I'm not going to get involved because I want to spend this time working on me and don'T want to get sidetracked...i didn't take long tho for us to feel we are in love...we have not met yet in person but we talk daily on the phone...he asked me several times not to have the surgery as he was concerned but I had to do this for me and my health...of course he knows what I look like....we plan to meet very soon but I have to admit I'm a little nervous! I'm hoping my fears don't get in the way...anyone have any advice for me?

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worm2872    635

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Sky, that's pretty cool. Just take it real slow and you'll be fine. :-)

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aep2k1983    12

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My relationship with my husband has gotten stronger. I will say other female family members have not treated me well. It's true that others that are used to eating with you etc do not know how to be around you after surgery. It's part jealousy & their own issues with food they haven't dealt with. Keep those that support you close.

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Panda    354

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A wonderful relationship is in your future.

Thank you for your kind words... I ask all to pray for me as this has been a very rough time for me. I have been very depressed. I have a hx of bipolar' date=' major depression and high anxiety. I am not on any medications at this time due to exercise prayer and meditation. Every time I work out its like taking an antidepressant due to the release of endorphins. The up side yo this is that my new found confidence has made it easier for me to go out into the world and meet people

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sky    87

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Thank you for your kind words... I ask all to pray for me as this has been a very rough time for me. I have been very depressed. I have a hx of bipolar' date=' major depression and high anxiety. I am not on any medications at this time due to exercise prayer and meditation. Every time I work out its like taking an antidepressant due to the release of endorphins. The up side yo this is that my new found confidence has made it easier for me to go out into the world and meet people

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Certainly sending prayers for you ;) you seem very strong and I believe you can get thru this and come out all that much better from it

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Panda    354

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and panda you look fab!

Thanks. Ghats what keeps me going! When I look in the mirror I feel like I look really good! Lol :D

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cookier224    238

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My relationship with my husband was strained at first because he did not know what to do but now 3 months later and 52 pounds gone, we are back to normal. He has gotten use to my eatting habits and i catch him looking at me lol. He feels me up a lot! Lol

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Panda    354

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Panda you look terrific!

Thank you. You all are always so kind ;)

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